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But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love.
If you must steal, steal away from bad company.
If you must cheat, cheat death.
And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away."
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I'll go toe to toe on this one if i had to...cheating is unacceptable,..covering up or excusing it is beyond that..a smart person knows..if his friends would cover for another..they would hide it from you too.. and lie when you asked for advise...Another mindset which needs to be blatantly shamed upon...This is the ONE issue which is a Guaranteed inferno if set ablaze with me..
Cheating is a lazy, little boy/girl behavior/excuse for being too afraid of admitting to someone that you are not ready to settle down, want to date around,..or that you like to wander and one person is never enough..Obviously saying this terrifies many people..which is SAD.. considering they are just words..not some mass murderer knocking on the front door..And covering for this??, exceptionally disappointing..Ive walked away from friendships id had with people for years in seconds over this ..Why would i want to associate with people w/out *****, who'd allow some girlfriend i had, who was cheating behind my back, to disgrace me..A real friend is supposed to be the one who can tell you the things which are hard to hear when you need to hear them..not someone who will betray you when you need them the most..
I can take a couple bruises..or a broken hand..but not the betrayal of someone i assumed was someone who would always tell it like it is..even if it hurts...or i wouldn't wish to hear...that is worth a trip downtown or stitches...someone has to stand up..not sit back and stare...
I'll go toe to toe on this one if i had to...cheating is unacceptable,..covering up or excusing it is beyond that..a smart person knows..if his friends would cover for another..they would hide it from you too.. and lie when you asked for advise...Another mindset which needs to be blatantly shamed upon...This is the ONE issue which is a Guaranteed inferno if set ablaze with me..
Cheating is a lazy, little boy/girl behavior/excuse for being too afraid of admitting to someone that you are not ready to settle down, want to date around,..or that you like to wander and one person is never enough..Obviously saying this terrifies many people..which is SAD.. considering they are just words..not some mass murderer knocking on the front door..And covering for this??, exceptionally disappointing..Ive walked away from friendships id had with people for years in seconds over this ..Why would i want to associate with people w/out *****, who'd allow some girlfriend i had, who was cheating behind my back, to disgrace me..A real friend is supposed to be the one who can tell you the things which are hard to hear when you need to hear them..not someone who will betray you when you need them the most..
I can take a couple bruises..or a broken hand..but not the betrayal of someone i assumed was someone who would always tell it like it is..even if it hurts...or i wouldn't wish to hear...that is worth a trip downtown or stitches...someone has to stand up..not sit back and stare...
Ummm... I don't think anyone is debating here whether or not cheating is wrong. I think we all pretty much agreed here that it is.
I highlighted the part that I agree with the most. So for example, if my friend cheated on her/his spouse, I would tell her straight up that her/his behaviour is disgusting and she needs to work on her marriage or give her any kind of advice that would make her get help and get life back on track. I would certainly NOT cover up for her/him...but I would certainly still continue to be a friend, because if I turned away from her, it would make me a betrayer, not any better then her.
I would distance myself away from those type "acquaintances" as I want nothing to do with those type characters wasting my time and poisoning my company.
I absolutely have to agree with you. Like the saying goes, show me your friends, i'll show you who you are.
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I tend to limit my time with such people. If you cheat or feel comfortable being with someone on the side then how long will it be until you look at what's in my hand.
One of my hot buttons are cheaters so when I see "shopping on the side" or being "the other girlfriend" it instantly turns me off. It's like losing 1,000 character points. I loose respect. I always say " you are not not right, or that's not right" because if you don't like who you're with...........get rid of them. If you're attracted to someone else's man or husband why do you think this person you're cheating with would ever be of quality to you. He/She already showed you what they are made of. I always say, when someone shows you who you are believe it.
I don't judge my friends for their indiscretions or infidelity. They've never judged me for any of my faults either. I've been friends with these people for most of my life. True friends do not judge one another, turn their backs on one another or cut them out of their lives over something that is none of your business in the first place. But that's just me I guess. You are free to choose your friends in whatever fashion helps you sleep better at night. I imagine your friendships aren't all that deep to begin with if you can cut them out of your life for something like a fling with their SO.
That was an awesome post Coolhand68... well stated. It is how I feel to this day about my friends.
I pretty much have shot straight on the subject. At the same time, I've not cut those people out of my lives. I've only refused to lie on their behalf.
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