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So, I'll reiterate for you, in case you didn't get the idea the first time you posted this.
1. She's done with you. Period.
2. Move on.
3. Meet new people.
4. "She's 22 and realized she's not done partying yet."
5. "wise up, back off, and be there for her, IF....she needs you."
6. "She is 22. Do not expect much emotional maturity out of her. A woman is not considered emotionally "fully grown" until she hits 30."
7. Play hard to get.
8. Move on.
9. Move on.
10. "Get the ring back and move on."
Yup, I think that about sums it up. Go back and read you other post again if you want the details, but that's pretty much what I got out of all the advice that people posted.
Thing is, and I'll say this in the nicest way I can, you're a wuss. You're so hung up on your infatuation that you can't see the world right outside the window.. It's time to man up and learn that, 1.) you can get chicks that aren't more than 10 years younger than you, 2.) when a chick says it's over, that means it's over, and 3.) before you can even THINK about being in a relationship, you have to start by being you OWN person - without relying on others to guide your every little move.
Maybe I'm being mean, but bro, it's just fact. You got dumped. We've all gotten dumped. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on with life.
Oh, and next time, find a chick that's a little more.. er.. mature.
So, I'll reiterate for you, in case you didn't get the idea the first time you posted this.
1. She's done with you. Period.
2. Move on.
3. Meet new people.
4. "She's 22 and realized she's not done partying yet."
5. "wise up, back off, and be there for her, IF....she needs you."
6. "She is 22. Do not expect much emotional maturity out of her. A woman is not considered emotionally "fully grown" until she hits 30."
7. Play hard to get.
8. Move on.
9. Move on.
10. "Get the ring back and move on."
Yup, I think that about sums it up. Go back and read you other post again if you want the details, but that's pretty much what I got out of all the advice that people posted.
Thing is, and I'll say this in the nicest way I can, you're a wuss. You're so hung up on your infatuation that you can't see the world right outside the window.. It's time to man up and learn that, 1.) you can get chicks that aren't more than 10 years younger than you, 2.) when a chick says it's over, that means it's over, and 3.) before you can even THINK about being in a relationship, you have to start by being you OWN person - without relying on others to guide your every little move.
Maybe I'm being mean, but bro, it's just fact. You got dumped. We've all gotten dumped. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on with life.
Oh, and next time, find a chick that's a little more.. er.. mature.
Best wishes, mate..
thanks...I didn't find it mean except for the wuss part hah but as far as age goes most guys do like younger girls
So what. Most 22 year old girls do NOT want a 35 year old dude.
Find someone closer to your own age, and good luck.
Also... most 22 year old girls do NOT want to MARRY a 35 year old dude unless that dude is a millionaire. But don't count on the marriage lasting.
If you want marriage, find a woman that is older and closer to your age. If you stick to the 22 year old age group, don't count on marrying any of them.
What is it about younger girls that you like? They may be more attractive than some girls your age, but there are some attractive 30 year-olds whose maturity level is much higher than your ex-fiancee.
It just sounds like you two lead different lives. She's more concerned about going out with her girls and you're more laid back. There's nothing wrong with either, but there's obviously a big difference there. With the long distance thing, that can make things more difficult. Instead of both of you being home talking to each other, one's at home while the other is out with friends.
In conclusion, I agree with the others that you should let her go. There are women out there who will fit better with you.
The situation sounds rough and the fact everyone is singing the same tune you pretty much found the answers you where hoping not to hear But it's the truth.
Do yourself a favor and focus on the future. All of the what ifs and worries will just prolong your suffering.
Concentrate on where you want to be emotionally in a week, a month, 6 months and a year, WRITE IT ALL DOWN!!! and read it to yourself on a daily basis.
Our brains are programmable and yours is severally infected right now and only you can heal it. Writing on here helps because everyone is telling you what you need to hear.
No, one that you fantasized was a good one moved on. And thank goodness for that or you would have continued on to the fairy tale wedding, the joyous honeymoon, the selling of your own home to buy another with her name on the title in her 'hood.
Segue into married life with her still wanting her girls nights, your resentment, the inevitable bickering and discontent followed by the painful divorce and the distribution of assets ... Let's not even get into the possibility of a child which would lead you into a financial morass for the next 20 years and more, losing your stake in the new house, etc.
Consider yourself lucky, find some other interests, find yourself and enjoy life! Bon chance.
No, one that you fantasized was a good one moved on. And thank goodness for that or you would have continued on to the fairy tale wedding, the joyous honeymoon, the selling of your own home to buy another with her name on the title in her 'hood.
Segue into married life with her still wanting her girls nights, your resentment, the inevitable bickering and discontent followed by the painful divorce and the distribution of assets ... Let's not even get into the possibility of a child which would lead you into a financial morass for the next 20 years and more, losing your stake in the new house, etc.
Consider yourself lucky, find some other interests, find yourself and enjoy life! Bon chance.
If that doesn't put it into perspective I don't know what will.
This is not a joke. Ask her if she wants to broaden her horizons and become swingers. What have you got to lose? It shows your willing to do something exciting and shows you're not obsessed with her.
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That was said just to get your attention.. still, hope ya get what everyone's tellin' ya here..
But it's the truth.
