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Pro-tip: If you let a woman feel empowered, she is more likely to act more feminine to you and do the things chauvinistic men compartmentalize in their miniscule minds about female roles. If you try to force traditional female roles on a woman, you'll not only get lashback but probably a stiletto heel shoved down your throat.
I recall my sister in-law saying to my wife to be you are going to hypenate your name like mine? I got very angry at her and told her to bud out and get lost. She had no right to ask such a question. I told her my mother loved her married name and Cindy had wanted the same since I asked for her hand.
That is ridiculous. From reading this thread, I'm getting the feeling that some think the husband forces his name on the wife. Not true. I didn't ask my wife to take my name, she decided that on her own.
Although I can imagine there may be some exceptions.
For example, if my name was Bob Blowya and I married a woman named Ivana, I can imagine how things would go in meeting people.
RE: Doctors changing their names. It costs a small fortune to change the name on a medical license. When one of the docs I used to work for got married, probably 15 years ago now, the cost was $10,000. Needless to say, she kept her own name. Her husband didn't care one way or the other.
I took my DH's name for the simple reason that I always hated my last name. My DH would have been fine either way. It's just a name and doesn't reflect our very strong commitment to each other.
Pro-tip: If you let a woman feel empowered, she is more likely to act more feminine to you and do the things chauvinistic men compartmentalize in their miniscule minds about female roles. If you try to force traditional female roles on a woman, you'll not only get lashback but probably a stiletto heel shoved down your throat.
I don't see anything chauvinsitic about a man wanting his wife to take his name. You seem a bit radical in your beliefs about men and women. Why so much conflict?
That is ridiculous. From reading this thread, I'm getting the feeling that some think the husband forces his name on the wife. Not true. I didn't ask my wife to take my name, she decided that on her own.
Although I can imagine there may be some exceptions.
For example, if my name was Bob Blowya and I married a woman named Ivana, I can imagine how things would go in meeting people.
"Hi, I'm Tom Tuttle and you are?"
"Ivana Blowya"
Same here. My wife loved my name. Why should my sister in-law care? It was not her business.
That is ridiculous. From reading this thread, I'm getting the feeling that some think the husband forces his name on the wife. Not true. I didn't ask my wife to take my name, she decided that on her own.
I agree. I never forced my wife to take my name, she voluntarily did it because that's the way it is. The question of changing her name vs. not changing her name never even came up.
I don't see anything chauvinsitic about a man wanting his wife to take his name. You seem a bit radical in your beliefs about men and women. Why so much conflict?
Clearly you were not reading the posts of certain individuals on this thread. To clarify, my thread was targeted to the one who said he "wouldn't stand for it". And way to make such a sweeping assumption about my beliefs! I actually cook, clean, wear dresses and heels often, and even have a cute little apron--does that soften your image of me up a bit? The thing is, I do all this willingly and happily because that is who I am and who I want to be to the man in my life. Not because he will "stand for it" or not.
I agree. I never forced my wife to take my name, she voluntarily did it because that's the way it is. The question of changing her name vs. not changing her name never even came up.
Most women want to take their husbands name and are proud to do so.
However, the world is not black and white. Sometimes there are very valid reasons for a woman to keep her maiden name after marriage.
A loving, supportive, unselfish man would be understanding if he were marrying a woman who had strong feelings about keeping her name due to professional reasons.
I don't think it's an issue unless you want to make it an issue--I changed mine--but really don't see the benefit of changing it. It is a pain to change your social security card, drivers license, business cards etc.
The thing of the matter is that there are many families in which the members have different last names and as long as you are a good family unit it doesn't make a different (my neice has a different last name as she is from a previous marriage)--so her last name is different than her brothers last names etc--it doesn't get talked about and it's no big deal.
I was thrilled to take my husband's name. Had nothing to do with my maiden name or anything. We were married, it was what I wanted. Not taking it wasn't an option for "me" at all. It was just another exciting thing about getting married. His brother's wife after 5 years just got around to changing her name. She doesn't have a profession that is would be a "hassle" do it either. Just never did it after the wedding.
My dentist got married about 2 years ago. She immediately changed her name to her husband's. I remember the hygentist telling me that she just got married and goes by Dr...... It didn't change a thing with her patients. Didn't seem like a major thing to do. Just my opinion.
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His brother's wife after 5 years just got around to changing her name. She doesn't have a profession that is would be a "hassle" do it either. Just never did it after the wedding.
