If you're not happy...

[IZthe411]

Originally Posted by Phil75230

If you're not happy... then I'll throw in something different.

Happiness is NOT "warm fuzzies" that soothingly massage your face, chest, and every limb of your body. Nor is happiness action, excitement, thrills, and other energizing adrenaline rushes. Those things aren't happiness - they're just feel-good emotionalisms. Drunks and junkies feel something similar too when they are loaded up on their favorite drug or drink. At best, feel-good emotionalisms are pleasurable but temporary and unreliable emotional states. In short, "feel-good emotionalisms" are counterfeits of happiness.

IMO, true happiness is necessarily a sustainable happiness - one that that only bends (at most) rather than breaks under circumstances exterior to your mind and body. It's characterized by a steady, sober-minded, emotionally-neutral (but not "robotic") ride through life; one without a lot of thrilling, pleasurable, joyful highs and bored, painfully lonely, depressing lows. That doesn't mean these things are absent - just that the highs aren't as high and the lows aren't as low (for the proper imagery, think of an electrocardiogram screen vs a graph depicting a gently rolling wave with rounded peaks). This may not be the most glamorous, interesting, and photogenic life to live - but it is a much more healthier one.

I like how you describe it here- balance. It's like some people expect the 4th of July with every go-round from their SOs. If you recognize that you will never be able to deliver to that level, don't expect it from someone else.

[Ablees8951]

[quote=yankeegirl313;11290489]What if your young, naive, and not sure if your happy or not?
Those emotions can go out of control sometimes, and your up and down with if your happy or not.
What if.....your with someone you absolutely adore, but he has an abuse problem? He has hit you once, twice, even three times? You moved out, and moved back because he promised you he would never do it again...only, to find until the next time.....repeat, over, and over, and over again. Your parents are getting sick of the routine..... but yet, you are convinced, this is what you want! You love him! You have a great time with him otherwise....until..... then the cycle repeats all over again. When do we say...enough?[/quote]
When do you say enough? Really? The first time the a**hole lays a hand on you. The next time may always be worse...next time the victim may not have the opportunity to leave.

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by IZthe411

Even if you aren't young and been around the block 3 or more times you need to make sure you are doing it for the right reasons!

Right!