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It IS my secret to tell. I make no bones about it; what you tell me in confidence, you tell to both of us. If you don't want him to know, don't tell me. And yes, I do tell people up front before they tell me. Generally I say something like, If I think it important, I will share with my husband. Most people who want me to know, want him to know. My female friends love that I will share with him and they also get a male pov if it differs from my own.
That is outrageous. I'm shaking my head in sheer disbelief. Where is your individuality and personal space? Where is your privacy? And most importantly, where is your common sense? If someone confides in you and tells you something very personal about them [tragedy, death or other personal stuff] you are obligated to keep that between you and said person.
That is outrageous. I'm shaking my head in sheer disbelief. Where is your individuality and personal space? Where is your privacy? And most importantly, where is your common sense? If someone confides in you and tells you something very personal about them [tragedy, death or other personal stuff] you are obligated to keep that between you and said person.
Unbelievable.
No one confides in me without knowing ahead of time that I may share. I am only obligated by what I agree to be obligated by or to. I will NOT let a third party dictate to me what my obligations are. I will not have my choices (to share or not) be limited by any else. If you don't like that I retain the choice to share with my s/o, then do not confide in me. It's simple. I refuse to be burdened by YOUR need to unload.
As to my individuality, I chose this relationship and its parameters. Talk about individuality, I am not dictated to by anyone else's concept of what MY relationship is or should be or how it should work. It is between my husband and ME, and not you or anyone else.
My H never cared. Everything we had online was open but he wasn't ever a "computer guy". I don't swap personal emails with anyone, it's usually just junk, receipt for online shopping, stuff like that anyway. I changed my password a few years back and never told him, but I doubt he remembered my old one either.
On the other hand....checking out his is how I discoverd his involvement with someone else. I was already suspecious, I just wanted proof. You would think he would have hid things better but since he never thought about my email I suppose he figured I never thought about his either...even though I had asked him for his password on many occasions to follow up on things like our online tax filings and such and had finally written it down.
No it isn't. It's the other individual's personal business.
I make no bones about it; what you tell me in confidence, you tell to both of us. If you don't want him to know, don't tell me. And yes, I do tell people up front before they tell me.
Ok, well I can certainly respect that you tell them and give them the option of sharing with your husband as opposed to just telling him without permission.
Generally I say something like, If I think it important, I will share with my husband. Most people who want me to know, want him to know. My female friends love that I will share with him and they also get a male pov if it differs from my own.
At the same time, I don't run to him and yap every detail. I make a decision whether to share; but it is still clear that I have that option so am not breaking any confidences nor hiding anything from him. To my memory, there have not been any times when someone has wanted to share a confidence with me that they have chosen not to do so because of my informing them that I might tell my husband.
Personally, this scenario would NEVER work for me in a friendship. I can't imagine my friends' husbands knowing about any potential relationship issues/hook ups/divorce/family dysfunction/sexual dysfunction/menstrual troubles/abortions/miscarriages/sexually transmitted diseases/ work problems/illegal activity, etc that I may encounter. Lol.
This is the main reason why I am so closemouthed, because most people don't respect privacy/keeping confidences to the extent that I do. But once again, you are giving your friends an option so that's cool.
I don't care.
My boyfriend knows my main e-mail address and the password, and I know his. Sometimes when neither of us can get to a computer, or have a way to access our e-mail for an extended period of time we have the other check it for us (usually if we're expecting an important e-mail).
i don't give her access to my e-mail, but my yahoo! account at home is always logged in so if she wanted to check she could. i ain't got nothing to hide so whatever.
We don't share passwords but if he cared to, he could figure it out easily. I have given them to him before to check something for me. Don't know if he kept them or not. I don't know his passwords and have never asked. I figure if he wants to share something with me, he will. As close as we are, I still think every individual has a right to some privacy and I have no plans to invade his!
No. We each have our own email accounts and passwords and I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping it private. I believe we are both entitled to the privacy.
We both have access to each others. The only thing that bothers me about it is that he'll read something and leave it as 'read.' Then I won't notice that it is a new message.
My sister is bi-polar with serious issues. Just the sight of her emails pisses off my husband. She can't send them to my home account anymore - I have her send them to my work instead. That's out of respect for my husband's sanity.
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Lol. 
