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Old 12-21-2009, 04:00 PM
 
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Pardon me, but I am staying on topic for what the OP wanted to discuss. The OP stated clearly that he did not want this to become divisive.
All im saying is dont say its only men when women are just as shallow and superficial..

 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:02 PM
 
Location: Florida
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All im saying is dont say its only men when women are just as shallow and superficial..
Let me brush that chip off your shoulder for you. .

Did I say it's only men?

Where?

Please point out my quote where I stated this.

I'll wait.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Nassau, Long Island, NY
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What are you talking about. . .

This is not about women in semi or midstream marriage. It's about the beginning, the meet - the attraction, the chemistry, the "spark" that ignites and motivates.

No one said heavier women are not "marriage material."

Are we reading the same thread?
So in your opinion the only fat women who are married are NOT newlyweds?

Wrong. Go spend some time talking to people who work in bridal salons and ask how many plus sized gowns they are ordering. Watch Bridezillas. Several cows on there.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:06 PM
 
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No. That cannot be the main reason when you look at the "condition" of the vast majority of married and child bearing women, which is overweight to some extent.

Actually I know a lot of single, very bitter women who are rail thin. What happened to them? Should they be automatically married because they are thin? I think their bitterness stems from being sold a bill of goods from gay fashion designers and other women that "if you are thin you are perfect and deserve everything" because if you wanna see looks that could kill, next time you are in a restaurant that also has a couple (decent looking guy and overweight woman) dining, check out how the "dutch treat" groups of women sitting together look at them ... if looks could kill ... well you know the rest. A couple of years back a news reporter did an undercover thing wearing a fat suit. She went to a restaurant with a good looking guy and when she excused herself to go to the bathroom, a (thin) woman from another table came over and actually said to the man, "What are you doing with that fat pig?" She was outraged at the prospect that someone who was not thin was "entitled" to be dining with a good looking man while she herself was dining with another female like herself.

Most married women are overweight, either a little or a lot.

If the case is, fat women aren't marriage material, why are THEY married?

I knew someone who used to work in labor and delivery and helped deliver a lot of babies. They said, "Men will ^%$*$##^% anything!" Their (admittedly rude and condescending) statement was particularly against the fat mommies (and they did NOT mean women who gained a few pounds around the growing babies, but ones that were obviously very far gone into fatness before getting pregnant).

The "weight issue" isn't keeping these women away from getting pregnant, now is it?

It's not weight that is keeping many women single. My vote is that many women have high expectations of what they want in a mate and get pickier as time goes on, and then eventually before they know it they are getting too old to bear children easily and they become less desirable to even the men they "rejected" as not good enough to marry because of their advancing age. Then, instead of going easier on men, they are even pickier and eventually choose dogs and/or cats as substitutes for husbands and children because, to their way of telling it, "no man worth marrying was ever interested in me."

Sadly, there are only so many billionaire hedge fund managers to go around.

God forbid they marry the sanitation man who works for NYC picking up garbage!

PS: I am from the NYC metropolitan area, headquarters for single aging bitter women and I DO know what I am talking about. As a fellow female, many professional single women have taken me into their confidences and it is the same old sad story. "No man was ever good enough!" I have also had two women (one fat, one a workout queen) admit to me that they love their dog more than they have ever loved any boyfriend. Sure! A dog gives love you don't have to earn or deserve. A dog will love you even if you are mean to it. Yet that is the "perfect" substitute for the love of another human being for these women.

It's something twisted, selfish and self-centered in their heads that is keeping them single, not fat on their bodies.
Great post im from your area,tons of women have a sense of entitlement and think they desrve the hottest wealthy mate even if they are hardly great catches themselves..

I dont know if its the pricnes syndrome some women get as kids or the fact that maybe some drunk hot guy in a bar had a one nigth stand with them one time so now they think they can get a hot guy..

AS u said though they dont get less picky as time goes on they get more somehow..
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:11 PM
 
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So in your opinion the only fat women who are married are NOT newlyweds?

Wrong. Go spend some time talking to people who work in bridal salons and ask how many plus sized gowns they are ordering.
Are you reading cross-eyed?

Seriously.

Again, what are you talking about?

I stated: "No one said heavier women are not "marriage material."

Shoo-fly.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Nassau, Long Island, NY
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Great post im from your area,tons of women have a sense of entitlement and think they desrve the hottest wealthy mate even if they are hardly great catches themselves..

I dont know if its the pricnes syndrome some women get as kids or the fact that maybe some drunk hot guy in a bar had a one nigth stand with them one time so now they think they can get a hot guy..

AS u said though they dont get less picky as time goes on they get more somehow..
They are just hurting themselves.

My husband and I have a friend who is female, 36, thin, nice looking, well traveled, has a post-graduate degree and a decent job, but is single and miserable and no matter how we try and help, nothing helps.

She is VERY PICKY as to the religion, national origin, looks, height, professional status, and earnings capacity of a potential mate.

She is of a nationality where men are very easy to marry. They actually will line up like lambs to the slaughter and get married because in their culture, it is very important to get married. She has met probably every man within an appropriate age range and of the nationality and religion she is on the east coast of the USA and has met some from back home in India too.

Result?

Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

Meanwhile she is crying she wants to have kids before it is too late.

But heaven forbid she marry a "regular" guy or even one who drives a car service car or has a food stand on the corner.

It must be a highly paid professional.

Well, those are either married off or they are looking for women younger than her at this stage of the game.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Nassau, Long Island, NY
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Are you reading cross-eyed?

Seriously.

Again, what are you talking about?

I stated: "No one said heavier women are not "marriage material."

Shoo-fly.
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Do you think that the main reason a lot of women are single is because of the weight issue?
He is who I am answering. I am answering the above question. How hard can that be for anyone to ascertain? If you don't like my answer, too bad.

Go find a 400-lb. man or something to reject, shoo-fly.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:19 PM
 
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They are just hurting themselves.

My husband and I have a friend who is female, 36, thin, nice looking, well traveled, has a post-graduate degree and a decent job, but is single and miserable and no matter how we try and help, nothing helps.

She is VERY PICKY as to the religion, national origin, looks, height, professional status, and earnings capacity of a potential mate.

She is of a nationality where men are very easy to marry. They actually will line up like lambs to the slaughter and get married because in their culture, it is very important to get married. She has met probably every man within an appropriate age range and of the nationality and religion she is on the east coast of the USA and has met some from back home in India too.

Result?

Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

Meanwhile she is crying she wants to have kids before it is too late.

But heaven forbid she marry a "regular" guy or even one who drives a car service car or has a food stand on the corner.

It must be a highly paid professional.

Well, those are either married off or they are looking for women younger than her at this stage of the game.
I love the "theres no good men out there" women who cut off 75% of the male population right off the bat with their preferences..

Some women seem to think of themselves as lotto tickets that they have to cash in before they expire..
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Nassau, Long Island, NY
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I love the "theres no good men out there" women who cut off 75% of the male population right off the bat with their preferences..

Some women seem to think of themselves as lotto tickets that they have to cash in before they expire..
That's why I think it's more the fat in between their ears than the fat on their bodies that is keeping a lot of women single.
 
Old 12-21-2009, 04:34 PM
 
Location: Southern NC
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There is definately a double standard in society....women are made to feel "less than" when they are over weight and it affects their self esteem greatly.....I've noticed that a lot of very overweight, unattractive men have NO issues with self esteem, and will hit on women that are way out of their league. Men will walk on the beach with their hairy backs, their Speedos, and not think twice about it.
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