Rare breed of men? Would like to hear from 50-something men

[AZDesertBrat]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Exactly.

People's assumptions are showing when they lay down their laws about inter-generational relationships. They recite their party-line likes and dislikes and find a thousand reasons why "it doesn't work".

As one who has been with ladies 25 years younger as well as 30 years older, I can say that, like you, I found no dearth of interesting conversation nor any emotional limitations.

We are what we are, individually. To try to shoehorn everyone into one category is a sin of the highest order.

While older men/younger women has always, more or less, been accepted...although we do still manage to look at it in negative ways...it's only been very recently that women have been having this experience. There was a time when they would've been REALLY put down and derided for it. As it is they sometimes have to put up with really rude remarks from other people so either have to have a good sense of humor or thick skin, or both! Other people sometimes have weird ideas and judgement issues and can only make a big reach for reasons why "it doesn't work". Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.

I like intelligent "talky" people. People who can talk about just about anything and everything. My ex and I were like that and not many dull moments. Even so, the "dull moments" were contented silences.

Don't know about things being a 'sin' but certainly not fair.

I just had a weird thought. I have never dated, nor been married to, anyone much over the age of 40. With 43 being the oldest. I have no idea what it would be like to be in a relationship with anyone from say age 45-60s. Hmmmmmm....

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by AZDesertBrat

...As it is they sometimes have to put up with really rude remarks from other people so either have to have a good sense of humor or thick skin, or both! Other people sometimes have weird ideas and judgement issues and can only make a big reach for reasons why "it doesn't work". Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.

That why after a while I learned to ignore the opinions of other people.

I like intelligent "talky" people. People who can talk about just about anything and everything. My ex and I were like that and not many dull moments. Even so, the "dull moments" were contented silences.

Always a good sign.

Don't know about things being a 'sin' but certainly not fair.

Sorry - I don't mean "sin" in the Biblical sense - I'm hardly a poster-child for organized religion - I just meant it's a damned shame.

I just had a weird thought. I have never dated, nor been married to, anyone much over the age of 40. With 43 being the oldest. I have no idea what it would be like to be in a relationship with anyone from say age 45-60s. Hmmmmmm....

Oh, let me assure you it's the closest thing to Heaven you'll ever experience, and I certainly don't mean in the Biblical sense...

[dgfurman]

How refreshing to see that there actually are men that will date women in their 40s and up, and prefer that to younger women. That puts a big smile on my face.

[dadeguy]

Originally Posted by profgent1

Women 20 to 30 years younger are looking for a sugar daddy. Men seeking women 20-30 years younger are looking to recapture their youth. A woman 20-30 years younger than I will not understand me, my generation, my cultural context, etc. Love is grand, but understanding intensifies love. I would not date someone that much younger than I. They only become eye candy, which heightens libido briefly. Long-lasting, sustaning relationships for the most part are created when people associate with those within a narrower age range.

quoted for truth. I get a chuckle when I get hit on by young girls, some young enough to be my daughters.