Why single women & men won't date single parents (respect, people, California)
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Well, anyone is entitled to their dating preferences - I wouldn't gainsay want anyone wants even if I can't understand it.
But what the OP seems to be missing is, he has his preferences AND so does SHE. But he doesn't like hers, so complains about it, while drumming on his right to date who he wants.
Date who you want, there is no need to put down other people in your justification of it.
It's great to hear a woman chime in with both sensible and well-articulated reasons, and ones which are reciprocal to why a childless man would not want to date a single mom with a living ex.
Thanks. Yes this is something I encounter all the time and when I tell people why I am not open to dating dads I get many excuses from "if he's still single and childless there's something wrong" to "parents are more responsible" to everything in between. Unfortunately the most irresponsible people I've seen have been the people who had kids and never married the other person then wants someone else to help support them. I have seen this scenario. Many people don't even realize in many states the stepparents either might have to pay child support or alimony or the state may raise it because of the rise in income. I can't even imagine having to spend part of my paycheck on someone else's kids I had no involvement with or his exwife. I'd rather take that money and helping my family, including my 3 year old niece.
When people say something like they date parents because they are better or childless people have something wrong I mention me and my former best friend. Going by this logic it would seem my former best friend was a better choice because she has a child and has been married (though not to the father of her child)while I am never married and childless. However, what isn't mentioned is she is a former drug addict who used to randomly sleep around and got pregnant by her mother's boyfriend when she was 19 (he was 55). She was on welfare until she abused the systerm and was selling the food stamps to buy drugs and booze. Meanwhile I spent my 20s going to college and graduate school and working on my career. My friend graduated last in her class in high school and never attended college. As for looks, she wanted to be a model and I went with her to an agency and they wanted me, not her. The man she eventually married didn't graduate from high school, has poor hygiene and has never held a job. I know he married her because she now has a job (though a low paying one).
There are still older childless people so if someone wants one they can find one if they look. I've even found childless men in their 30s, 40s and yes even 50s and many of them want to get married. Many are single and childless simply because they were working on their career, are shy, or just didn't meet anyone.
I don't think a 25 year old views a 36 year old as a OLD MAN especially if she is attracted to him
I agree.
I think there are girls in their mid 20s who would pass up a guy in his mid 20s and do the deed with someone middle-aged the likes of George Clooney, or anyone else with "corner office" looks, even if they were NOT a movie star.
I went to Catholic grammar school with a half Hispanic/half Lebanese girl who drooled over Charlton Heston. She was 12 or 13 at the time. Helllooooo.
Sadly, I just exited one of these relationships, not because of my ex (well, not totally,) but because there is too much drama.
First, we will never understand what you are feeling about your child, nor will we ever feel the same about your seed.
Second, we don't want to deal with baby-mama or daddy drama - what that means is ever seeing, talking to or ever hearing their voice.
Thirdly, Why would ANYONE ever want to be second, third, etc.
Fourth, we know why you want to date us singles...for the reason listed above, so why not just stick to your own kind.
Fifth, we can't discipline or have a say in how much you spend on your ex/child, so what do you think is the great appeal about you...unless you are a model?
Sixth, if we ever married, you wad is blown on your previous kids, so?
Elighten me as to what the appeal is?
I imagine only single parent will respond will respond with "selffish" but that's not is, it's called doing it right the first time.
Everybody is somebodies child even those baby boomer people once had parents. With that said nobodies child is special & yes that means YOURS too. Its crazy how people act sometimes over their children. I like kids, but peopleare crazy
Judging from what the OP is saying, it's a wonder that step-parents exist.
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