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Hi,
so fiance and i just got into an argument for NO reason.....
problem:
she did laundry today, and when i got home, she said that she's upset cause i didn't check my pockets before putting my pants in the laundry basket. as a result, my digital camera's remote control (value 15 dollars. she got it for me as a gift) was washed.
i said, it's ok. don't worry.
then she went on about how i'm not careful and i don't care and etc. and i said well, since you brought it up, i think it's the responsibility of the person who's putting in the laundry to check everything again before putting them in. She said "i can't believe you're blaming me...etc." to which i said "i'm not. i don't care. it's not worth fighting over. we'll just disagree about who is at fault. it doesn't matter. not worth a fight. if you'd like, i'll do my cloths myself from now on."
sure enough, she got upset and we stopped talking.
OH I CAN'T WAAAAAIT UNTIL WE'RE MARRIED! (/END SARCASTIC STATEMENT)
Who is at fault?
who should be held responsible?
Last edited by cricket_factor; 05-21-2010 at 04:37 PM..
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First of all, I wouldn't have bitched about that. I'd have just light-heartedly said, "Oh well, you should check your pockets before taking off your clothes. Maybe next time. Thank goodness it wasn't something expensive, huh? <shrug>".
Second, no, it is not the responsibility of the person doing laundry to go through all the pockets. Are you kidding? LOL
Hi,
so fiance and i just got into an argument for NO reason.....
problem:
she did laundry today, and when i got home, she said that she's upset cause i didn't check my pockets before putting my pants in the laundry basket. as a result, my digital camera's remote control (value 15 dollars. she got it for me as a gift) was washed.
i said, it's ok. don't worry.
then she went on about how i'm not careful and i don't care and etc. and i said well, since you brought it up, i think it's the responsibility of the person who's putting in the laundry to check everything again before putting them in. She said "i can't believe you're blaming me...etc." to which i said "i'm not. i don't care. it's not worth fighting over. we'll just disagree about who is at fault. it doesn't matter. not worth a fight. if you'd like, i'll do my cloths myself from now on."
sure enough, she got upset and we stopped talking.
OH I CAN'T WAAAAAIT UNTIL WE'RE MARRIED! (/END SARCASTIC STATEMENT)
Who is at fault?
who should be held responsible?
Sounds to me like it's the "fault" of both of you. You for not checking your pockets before they went into the laundry and her for not checking them before she put them in. I learned early on, when my sons were little boys, and my lazy ex didn't check his, that *I* better. And I kept any and all money that didn't get found and ended up in the washer! It only takes a couple seconds to check pockets for pete's sake. You're right, it isn't worth fighting over. When they say "Don't sweat the petty stuff" they mean stuff like this.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by AZDesertBrat
Sounds to me like it's the "fault" of both of you. You for not checking your pockets before they went into the laundry and her for not checking them before she put them in. I learned early on, when my sons were little boys, and my lazy ex didn't check his, that *I* better. And I kept any and all money that didn't get found and ended up in the washer! It only takes a couple seconds to check pockets for pete's sake. You're right, it isn't worth fighting over. When they say "Don't sweat the petty stuff" they mean stuff like this.
Nope. When I'm doing housework--a no-brainer job--my hampster wheel is spinning a thousand miles an hour, thinking of other things I need to do next and so on while I'm on auto-pilot. I don't have time to do someone else's thinking for them on top of my own. If you don't clear your pockets before you toss your clothes, lose what you left in them. I'm not the laundry police.
I'd like to answer your poll, but I can't get past this one thing ... your fiancee does your laundry??? That's awesome. In the 20 years we've been together, my wife has never done mine. I do it. She does hers. No fights about leaving things in pockets.
After 17 years of marriage and 12 of motherhood I still can't train my guys to empty their pockets.
9 out of 10 times I check but that one time I don't...we have tissues ALL OVER the clothes.
I remind and remind them.
Do you know how DAMN frustrating that is? I can only imagine messing up something electronic...
So, um, yeah, I'm on the side of your g/friend. It only takes a second to check your pockets.
Maybe she shouldn't have flipped out but I do when I have the tissue mess because I am the one who has to spend half an hour picking lint off each shirt (we don't use a dryer).
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Originally Posted by GypsySoul22
After 17 years of marriage and 12 of motherhood I still can't train my guys to empty their pockets.
9 out of 10 times I check but that one time I don't...we have tissues ALL OVER the clothes.
I remind and remind them.
Do you know how DAMN frustrating that is? I can only imagine messing up something electronic...
So, um, yeah, I'm on the side of your g/friend. It only takes a second to check your pockets.
Maybe she shouldn't have flipped out but I do when I have the tissue mess because I am the one who has to spend half an hour picking lint off each shirt (we don't use a dryer).
One major reason I won't stick my hands in others pockets; I don't need to man-handle someone's nose soppins--family member or not.
person washiing should always check, how can you not feel a damn remote?
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Are you kidding? 
LOL 
