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We only live about 45 min away from each other but she does not drive & the one weekend (2 weeks ago) when she was coming up here, I was out of town for my granddaughters baptizm.
Darn.
I * think* some people on the Colorado Springs forum may know who I am because I post alot there regarding education/schools/kids issues & several of them work in education with one for sure who has alot of knowledge about my local school district.
In that context, it won't be hard for someone to "connect the dots" so to speak; I have 11 kids & have been involved in that arena for the past 25 years & will be for at least another 6 until my youngest ages out. Then I do have a Grandson here who lives in D-11 & starts Kindergarden next year ... so they are stuck with me for a while.
I'm really socially isolated because my youngest son is disabled.
When I first started posting here I really just wanted to be "liked". I guess I wanted to be one of the "cool kids" so to speak.
I kept alot about the "real me" on mute, I think. Now; I'm much more honest. The real me is more interesting than the "socially acceptable" me anyway & I figure if somebody does not like me they can just put me on "ignore".
Or; they can make it known, which some do but thats ok now. The first time it happened I cried all weekend!
Are there no or few retired persons where you live?
All of those are frequently discussed topics - and terminology - right here, every day, on this retirement forum. Most "people here" do - or at least seek to - understand them. That you are not familiar with and dismiss them attests to 1) your being a fish out of water here and 2) the need for an anonymous online forum (like this one) to discuss and receive informed responses from people who are going through or have gone through the same situation. In other words, not you or your uneducated and confused bar buddies.
I wanted to give you a rep but I have to wait. So consider this another rep from me.
Location: In a rural place where people can't bother me ;)
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I think posters would share/reveal less over coffee or beer than they do here.
Thats exactly right. I would like to know the psychology behind humans having more courage behind a computer vs. in real life. I bet its similar to liquid courage.
Thats exactly right. I would like to know the psychology behind humans having more courage behind a computer vs. in real life. I bet its similar to liquid courage.
I think there's a lot of that. Once I watched a guy I liked to read totally demolish my respect for him one night. It was a disaster.
But something even more common was mentioned by another poster. A lot of us are quiet people in person. In real life I know I do a lot more listening than I do talking.
All my life I've been better able to express myself on paper than face-to-face. Sometimes my brain works faster than my common sense so I'm careful not to speak about controversial issues until I have my thoughts composed. Writing on a forum offers that opportunity.
It's a fact that the majority of folks who like to spend a lot of time on internet forums tend toward the introverted type of personality. That doesn't necessarily mean that we are reluctant to share our opinions.
The truth is people rarely ask me any questions in real life. They're too busy talking about themselves. So I like having a place to come where I can offer an opinion.
My daughter-in-law and son actually ended up moving to the same town as her best "internet friend" 5 years ago..
( they co-moderated the same internet site )
When they did meet face to face they had a 30 minute " awkward visit".........(daughter-in-law's words ) and haven't visited or spoken to each other since.
An "internet friend" is entirely different than a real face to face friend in the real world.
David A Stone, that's because how a person looks and behaves in real life and in face-to-face interaction can determine how you feel about them. How they look and behave can also indicate socio-economic status, social class, and also level of education. Sometimes it just takes getting a look at a person or a conversation to know that you would want nothing to do with them. And some people look deranged. Just go to PlentyofFish.com (POF.com) and take a look at some (or many) of the men, particularly in our age group. Very frightening! (I haven't looked at the women at POF.com)
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I like this forum to learn about retirement issues from the viewpoints of others. And sometimes the threads, or a few posts, are light-hearted and enjoyable.
A group of people on a forum related to work met up at a national convention a few years ago. We never could get comfortable with each other's real names, and kept reverting to our screen names. That was amusing.
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