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a) if you address the invitation properly, you shouldn't need to include a note.
b) that sounds ok. I was picturing something else.
really? 3 or 4 posts is a volley? Obviously you are only looking for affirmation, not real answers. We don't know why a date wasn't invited for you. If you attitude in this thread is an indication of what you are like IRL, I have no doubt as to why the bride and groom don't keep in contact. If he is a real friend, ask him what's up. If he's not, forget it and move on. Posting here and making assumptions about what happened and why doesn't do you any good. The way you've talked about these people here, I don't know why you are even still dwelling on it. Move on.
2 decades of dwelling! One would have thought that he would have moved on since then!
No, it's not that great of a story. My theory is they'd seen your dates before and weren't impressed, and didn't want one there. What I can't figure out is why they asked you to be in the wedding in the first place.
You can put your theory where you want. Top 15 Law School student after Summa @um Laude in undergrad. Can you top that? Most of the women I dated in college had similar demographics. I was an A(-) student and "water seeks its own level."
2 decades of dwelling! One would have thought that he would have moved on since then!
Hadn't discovered CDF back then, nor did it exist. Just thought I'd post it. It came to mind since I was browsing Facebook. Even my friend's wife has gotten homelier.
It has? I wouldn't know. Most weddings I've been to were several years ago.
Yeah, I still like them, but only the most formal wedding of the last six or so I've been to have had one. From both a budget and eco-friendly standpoint they're one of those easy things to dump.
It has? I wouldn't know. Most weddings I've been to were several years ago.
My invitations didn't come with the inner envelope. I thought it was odd, but didn't make fuss about it. We ordered ours on line, not sure if that made a difference.
I should track how many responses have been made by a handful of FEMALE posters on this stupid thread. It speaks volumes to how biotchy women can be when it comes to weddings and having to CONTROL every last God-damn thing. I learned the word Bridezilla here, a few days ago.
Rules? BFD. I'd pit a wedding against a basketball game anyday. I can't ever watch a game without seven-foot-tall players crying foul every five seconds because somebody touched them wrong.
Rules? BFD. I'd pit a wedding against a basketball game anyday. I can't ever watch a game without seven-foot-tall players crying foul every five seconds because somebody touched them wrong.
I took an Ethics course in college. The professor did not believe in "situational ethics." We were allowed to challenge her. I challenged her. Mind you, she still gave me an "A."
I believe in "situational ethics" then, and still do today.
^If you want to invite a truly single person to bring a date (which is not required by etiquette, but is certainly nice if you can afford it) you can use the "and guest" on the envelope. Or you could just include a note letting them know they're welcome to bring a guest. But if they're in a relationship it's definitely appropriate to find out their SO's name -- facebook can be great way to do this for your younger friends!
"And guest" is NEVER correct if the person planning the wedding is following the rules of etiquette.
I admitted that many posts in advance of this one.
My attitude was "eff off" to you guys, especially after meeting the extended family. (Sorry, we need a "middle finger" icon). You're not my friends. They'll give their wedding a score of 97, instead of a 100. BFD.
I should track how many responses have been made by a handful of FEMALE posters on this stupid thread. It speaks volumes to how biotchy women can be when it comes to weddings and having to CONTROL every last God-damn thing. I learned the word Bridezilla here, a few days ago.
Actually - the one who is coming off biotchy is... well... you. You asked a question - you got answers - but they weren't the answers you were looking for. Then you admit to knowing that you made a faux pas - but that you did it on purpose. Like you said, your attitude was "eff off."
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Originally Posted by robertpolyglot
Ok, people are going to get married and have a reception.
The church or chapel part generally doesn't change the cost much, but the type and size of the reception locale, along with the food and beverages that will be served will cause costs to change. Also, it may be likely that anywhere from 10% to 25% of the invitees will be single, especially if soon after high school or college.
Do you invite them as "Person" and Guest, do you differentiate as to whether or not there is a known significant other, or do you allow all single invitees to bring a guest to make their "comfort level" at the event more equitable?
What IS wedding etiquette on this? Also, clarify if you are using the "reasonable person's" rule of thumb and/or a "cheap person's" rule of thumb.
You clearly asked what the wedding etiquette was on this. We answered you. But you don't seem to like the answers. So you are throwing a hissy fit. Why did you start the thread?
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I'd pit a wedding against a basketball game anyday. I can't ever watch a game without seven-foot-tall players crying foul every five seconds because somebody touched them wrong.
to you guys, especially after meeting the extended family. (Sorry, we need a "middle finger" icon). You're not my friends. They'll give their wedding a score of 97, instead of a 100. BFD.