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Why isn't it a job? If it's not a job, why does anyone bother to pay their nanny, day care worker, cleaning person, etc.? I mean it's not like they're really working or anything. At least not according to you.
Why isn't it a job? If it's not a job, why does anyone bother to pay their nanny, day care worker, cleaning person, etc.? I mean it's not like they're really working or anything. At least not according to you.
Why isn't it a job? If it's not a job, why does anyone bother to pay their nanny, day care worker, cleaning person, etc.? I mean it's not like they're really working or anything. At least not according to you.
When my son was born and about 6 weeks old, I asked my husband to make dinner. He stated that he was "off work" and that it was my job. So....
The following day, when he arrived home, I handed him my son and locked myself in the bedroom until 6am - when he left for work. When I came out, I told him that no one is expected to work 24 hours a day, and if making dinner, cleaning house and caring for OUR child was MY job, then I wanted MY work hours defined and kept under 50/week, as well as a 30 minute break for lunch EVERYDAY. Not to say we didn't have small issues over the years, but he never pulled that on me again.
When my son was born and about 6 weeks old, I asked my husband to make dinner. He stated that he was "off work" and that it was my job. So....
The following day, when he arrived home, I handed him my son and locked myself in the bedroom until 6am - when he left for work. When I came out, I told him that no one is expected to work 24 hours a day, and if making dinner, cleaning house and caring for OUR child was MY job, then I wanted MY work hours defined and kept under 50/week, as well as a 30 minute break for lunch EVERYDAY. Not to say we didn't have small issues over the years, but he never pulled that on me again.
Hahaha. You're lucky that it worked. Mine never got the message.
I'll admit that I haven't read through all 19 pages of this thread, but I just wanted to add that my wife is a SAHM of two children in diapers, and I can confirm that going to work is 1000 times easier. Sometimes I'll take a day off to give her a day off, and when I get back to the office the next day I cherish how quiet and easy work is. I feel terrible for her but she loves it- I've offered to pay for part time daycare, babysitters, and/or nannies but she wouldn't even consider it. She did let me get her a cleaning lady twice a month, but won't even let her come once a week.
I recently switched jobs from a 70 hour a week job to a 40 hour a week job, and even the 70 hour a week job was much easier than being a full time mom.
Hahaha. You're lucky that it worked. Mine never got the message.
If it hadn't worked, I would have been a single mom and he could have paid 1/2 a daycare bill on top of child support. Then, as of now, one of my biggest pet peeves is that men (in general) believe that the children are the woman's responsibility primarily.
When my son was born and about 6 weeks old, I asked my husband to make dinner. He stated that he was "off work" and that it was my job. So....
The following day, when he arrived home, I handed him my son and locked myself in the bedroom until 6am - when he left for work. When I came out, I told him that no one is expected to work 24 hours a day, and if making dinner, cleaning house and caring for OUR child was MY job, then I wanted MY work hours defined and kept under 50/week, as well as a 30 minute break for lunch EVERYDAY. Not to say we didn't have small issues over the years, but he never pulled that on me again.
If it hadn't worked, I would have been a single mom and he could have paid 1/2 a daycare bill on top of child support. Then, as of now, one of my biggest pet peeves is that men (in general) believe that the children are the woman's responsibility primarily.
I'm glad mine isn't like that. Childcare is equally divided between us when he's home. He's a fabulous father
Most new moms love to go back to work and dump the newborn in daycare.
Or they absolutely hate it, but have no choice.
Or they are able to (and choose to) stay home.
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