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no
don't trust them
don't want them in my personal life
the one time i made an exception to this was an absolute disaster. i lived in a very small town with company housing so everyone i worked with, they were also my neighbors. literally there was no one in the town who was not a co worker.
turned out very badly. when my contract ended i went back to living in a town where i could keep my personal life entirely separate from my work life.
i don't want anyone at work knowing my personal business. i am with them all day. the last thing i want is to see any more of them.
one lady and i had a lot in common at work and she was very smart and supportive and had good sense, she was a great mentor in the organization and gave sound advice. However then she started inviting me to do stuff outside work and it just felt too weird. I wanted to change jobs and move to a different town, and it started feeling like it would let her down if i left, even though she was very supportive and encouraging of my advancing. So i sort of put some distance between us.
with me work has to be totally separate. also i don't really trust most people at work. religious people feel like they're always trying to convert me.
Last edited by Tzaphkiel; 08-14-2017 at 10:22 PM..
As I got older and gained a more managerial role, nope....never. I have 3 employees now who work under me with pending Facebook friend requests for the past 6 months. Co-workers are different story, it depends on if we "click" or not...I don't trust too many people outside of immediate family.
I can understand not wanting to be personally close, but I wouldn't be standoff-ish either.
I have had several jobs where I didn't become personally close to anyone there. With that said, I had no problems engaging in casual small talk or maintaining professional relationships. I never wanted to come across as rude or unusual, like I had something to hide. Appear normal.
I can understand not wanting to be personally close, but I wouldn't be standoff-ish either.
I have had several jobs where I didn't become personally close to anyone there. With that said, I had no problems engaging in casual small talk or maintaining professional relationships. I never wanted to come across as rude or unusual, like I had something to hide. Appear normal.
I don't care if I come across as "standoffish." I get paid to do a job, not chat and make friends.
In fact if I can find them on FB I block them all lol. Why? I had one of the co-worker comment how they saw my post on the FB for-sale group which made me think ya, I don't need people to know my personal life. Even though my FB page is locked down, they can still see public posts if it's on a group.
I'm friendly with everyone and aren't anti-social for the most part. Have plenty of friends but work is work, I do love my job but also I don't mix work and friends (just like friends and money).
Or do you believe there are boundaries, where work people stay at work, and you find friends who don't work with you?
Why or why not?
In my twenties before people started pairing off there was a lot of socializing, but even then I kept my job, voluntary work, and private life as separate as possible.
It helped that I lived out in the valley far from the residences of other workmates, but I was also involved in politics and the company unionized, and I was elected Treasurer, as voluntary position that quickly became full time as well as making me a target at work for the lower (and lowest) management group that had "failed high school together", learned their biz skills selling drugs to their school friends, and their social skills "gigging" in a band.
That left lots of reasons to not mix my life's activities with work. Then again, the job description controls a lot of that: lots of management groups the higher you go means golf tournaments and networking on weekends, and socializing at athletic events, since our company had a "box" at the football games.
Culturally, I'm in Canada. In the west the culture is very different and my instincts held up well to keep socializing separate. Work culture was and is NOT the same as my US experience. Then again, my old hood in the US isn't the same any more either.
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Excrutiatiingly careful to mix
