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They are sick of me on FIP page. Not being rude or anything, but they all have their own grief they are grappling with or are at the beginning and scared and such.
They want me to find peace and move on. It's not that fast or simple.
Actually, once I posted that Alfredo didn't have FIP, but I still tried to post condolences, I was "blocked" or whatever it's called. So, yeah, they can be abrupt and internally focused.
Maybe you Should start an FIP specific thread, in this forum, and include links to your posts in this thread , for the next person dealing with the fear and guilt this disease causes.
Your welcome to keep posting here, but your experience will be inaccessible to a person looking for help dealing with the heartbreak of FIP.
I had to have Saber PTS when I did because he was having difficulty breathing. Because of her wheezing, especially with FIP, you Absolutely had to have her PTS when you did.
I do feel I need to [gently] make you aware of something, very important.
You have to be kind to Nicki, she is grieving too. Also,[obviously] it's not her fault that she is alive and Hobby was the one that got FIP. So please be aware, so you don't have regrets later.
Maybe you Should start an FIP specific thread, in this forum, and include links to your posts in this thread , for the next person dealing with the fear and guilt this disease causes.
Your welcome to keep posting here, but your experience will be inaccessible to a person looking for help dealing with the heartbreak of FIP.
I had to have Saber PTS when I did because he was having difficulty breathing. Because of her wheezing, especially with FIP, you Absolutely had to have her PTS when you did.
I do feel I need to [gently] make you aware of something, very important.
You have to be kind to Nicki, she is grieving too. Also,[obviously] it's not her fault that she is alive and Hobby was the one that got FIP. So please be aware, so you don't have regrets later.
I appreciate that, but I don't think she is. I think she is happy to be only cat again.
But she is trying to get my attention.
She brings me things. (so cute).
I think she resented all the extra attention paid to Hobby, though I quickly stopped giving only Hobby special foods and treats.
I let them share.
She hissed at Hobby when I brought her home from hospital. Another sign, to me, that Hobby was dying. Nicki didn't hiss at her when she was sick with ear infection.
What do you think Hobby thinks about my failure on her last night? To properly pay attention to her and maybe help her?
Jen, seriously, between you and me, I think you should "ask" her. If I thought, even for one second, that Hobby was Anything but grateful, or had any feeling other than love for you, I wouldn't bring this up again.
It's not like we have any "training" on how to deal with death, especially when we have to facilitate it. You handled your grief the only way you were capable of, and you weren't selfish, you didn't ignore her need to be released, so that you could have more time with her (while she would have been suffering)
Jen, seriously, between you and me, I think you should "ask" her. If I thought, even for one second, that Hobby was Anything but grateful, or had any feeling other than love for you, I wouldn't bring this up again.
It's not like we have any "training" on how to deal with death, especially when we have to facilitate it. You handled your grief the only way you were capable of, and you weren't selfish, you didn't ignore her need to be released, so that you could have more time with her (while she would have been suffering)
ok. Is this gift is not a hardship on you, I will gratefully accept it. But if it is, I don't want to.
I was unintentioanlly selfish. I started dealing with MY feelings when I could see I had to make this choice instead of HERS. She was the one feeling so bad and dying. It's so messed up. The most unselfish perfect little being, even in sickness, and I didn't return the favor.
This cat got off her death bed to walk to patio door to tell me Nicki wanted in.
And she tried to follow me around as normal. I did ok the first night home when I thought still she would make it.
But the next night, when she needed me the most, I checked out mentally. It was so unfair and horrid.
I don't even know how to ask her about that or convey to her that it wasn't that I didn't care or she wasn't worth it. She was worth everything. She deserved better. She was sheer perfection and SO selfless. All the time.
Last edited by jencam; 12-18-2014 at 11:54 PM..
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