Facing the holidays...Holiday plans?

[Marcy1210]

I have a triple whammy on Mother's Day. That was one holiday Bob went overboard on. More than Christmas, more than my birthday. He always made "my" dad super special for me. I think a lot of it had to do with it never falling on a week/work day like birthdays mostly do. So, that's one whammy. Then, my mom and how I miss her and finally, my dad's birthday was May 10th, and it fell on Mother's Day a few times.

My oldest daughter will send flowers, but she has a husband and four kids, so it's her big day, too. My middle daughter and son have their families, and it's a big day for my daughter, and for my son's wife. Then, my youngest son is here in town (the others are in GA, FL and TX), but he doesn't drive, so I'll have to get him. However, I'm sure he doesn't want to spend the whole day here, after giving me flowers (at least he has every year since Bob died--assuming he will this year, but who knows), the rest of the day will be ho-hum. That's how it's been since Bob died, so, I'll probably just go visit my youngest, stay for a little while, and then come home to a "just me" day.

I think now, my three older kids have their own families and it's the girls' turn to be mom and go to church, then out to brunch, or whatever, and my son's time to honor his wife. Passing of the torch, I guess...

[CArizona]

Marcy...I'm sorry that May is such a rough month for you. We must be doing a little better to use terms like "double-whammy" or "triple-whammy," etc. Don't you think? I didn't use these terms last year or the year before, etc...A little humor helps! This is how I feel anyway!...Wish we lived closer so we could roll-out the red carpet for each other on Mother's Day and "party-hardy!"

[tamiznluv]

Originally Posted by Mtn. States Resident

Hi Tami,

I don't stop here as much either. Thank you for your good wishes. It's just an appt. but they are thinking. They called last night and told me what I was going to have done before I see any of them. I understand what they want to know. It's going to be a crazy week.

I don't know that one has to do anything for holidays if that person finds it easier to be alone. It's good to know we don't have to come here as often, unless s/he wants to.

Take care of yourself, Tami - some of us know you can be a handful and more.

MSR

Who... me???? ��������

I need to schedule my MRI tomorrow. I'm supposed to do it in April, they didn't say WHEN in April I had to do it. ������

I get so close to falling asleep in that tube but I force myself not to because that would make my head and neck move and they would need to re-do them. 2.5 hours in there is bad enough but when they have to re-do some of them, what a PITA that is. Never mind my bladder! ��

MSR, have you ever heard of a neuro named Mazen Eneyini??? He's brilliant and very well known in his field. He's my neuro. Been with him since started out as a poor doc. Now he's very rich. Same with my chiro. LOL, wish I could've gotten rich along the way too.

Good luck, kid.

[Mtn. States Resident]

I didn't want to start a new thread. Most everyone I want to thank posts here. Tomorrow is my One Year mark of losing Crick.

So many of you helped me In ways I've never told you. I appreciate your acceptance of me despite me not really fitting. I'm younger than many here; I lost my best friend I'd known 26 yrs., worked with, co-owned a house with, learned about our specialty and life from, took care after cancer surgery and radiation treatment in 1998, took care of when the complications from radiation therapy caused Stage 4 Lymphedema and multiple hospitalizations. And lost unexpectedly one year ago.

That is when the remaining biological family told me, after I received a totally unexpected phone call about my friend dying, that I was no longer needed or involved. Furthermore, no obituary was to appear. It's not worth writing the rest of what they yelled.

Thank goodness a mortician bent the law a bit. I was able to see Crick one last time and the family never knew.

You all accepted me here, even if I didn't quite fit. You seemed like the sane group to me here. While different parts have me have healed due to other people, I absolutely received a lot of acceptance and support from all of you. I can't tell you how much that meant when the family tossed me.

I don't want to name names, I'll miss too many. Reading how all of you were coping day to day and go on really helped. You also accepted the fact I lived with my best friend, there was no other relationship between us except work, but that doesn't count here.

Sadly, Crick's Cocker-Spaniel I was now raising was abducted in Feb. That has been tough....both of them within 9-10 months.

I just wanted to say thanks. I'm not dreading tomorrow, I'm actually seeing an M.D. working with my neurosurgeon. Crick would want that. I might be a basket case later, but getting the most accurate info would be huge Crick.

MSR

[CArizona]

MSR..Thanks for your caring post. It's been a 2-way street. You've helped us too...Thanks for your interest and support!.. I'll be thinking about you today. So sorry that Crick's dog was abducted. How sad....Sending you a BIG HUG!

[Mtn. States Resident]

Originally Posted by CArizona

MSR..Thanks for your caring post. It's been a 2-way street. You've helped us too...Thanks for your interest and support!.. I'll be thinking about you today. So sorry that Crick's dog was abducted. How sad....Sending you a BIG HUG!

Thanks CA. Two way streets work best anytime both people benefit. I've also seen so much healing, progress and learning I've seen in others.

I saw the other doctor today. Very useful, we clicked and as he said to me, " You know all the key people (doctors). Yip, it was nice to have someone understand. I said, " You mean not everyone can remember their anesthesiologists name from a 6/13/1989 six hour surgery in O. R. #9?" He laughed, since I had named the anesthesiologist. To me, it only makes sense. I asked my NS in 89 which anesthesiologists he preferred to work with. Why not? The patient has the right to request the anesthesiologist of his/her choice.

Anyway, his very gentle exam left me feeling sick and nauseated tonight. Should be having a procedure next week.

I hope everyone is doing well.

MSR

[CArizona]

MSR...I'm glad you feel a connection with the doctor. Hope all goes well for you next week. Thanks for the updates....I've been fighting the "blues." (Off and on.)...We always celebrated my younger son's birthday on Memorial Day weekend....My older son's birthday was last weekend. And my wedding anniversary was right before Mother's Day...May is full of special dates and memories for me...I think I "feel more" this year because I'm not quite as numb. (As I used to be in past years.)...I know you just went through a big anniversary date too. Anyway, I'll be "rooting" for you next week.

[Mtn. States Resident]

Originally Posted by CArizona

MSR...I'm glad you feel a connection with the doctor. Hope all goes well for you next week. Thanks for the updates....I've been fighting the "blues." (Off and on.)...We always celebrated my younger son's birthday on Memorial Day weekend....My older son's birthday was last weekend. And my wedding anniversary was right before Mother's Day...May is full of special dates and memories for me...I think I "feel more" this year because I'm not quite as numb. (As I used to be in past years.)...I know you just went through a big anniversary date too. Anyway, I'll be "rooting" for you next week.

CA,

Thanks. But we all have Memorial Day first. I don't know how you can separate your feelings for your sons, let alone your late husband.

Yes, it makes sense you'd be feeling more "blue" this year as you are feeling more overall. Maybe this was the right thread to try to get moving again.

May is full of memories for you. How can I and any others help you besides thinking about you and sending cyber hugs your way? Are you seeing anyone prior to the weekend or on Memorial Day? Does it help to write, go driving or on a trip or check out the Casino I believe was connected to your oldest son (I might have that wrong), but I think you know what I mean? Anything external you're thinking about doing?

Let your mind wander and see what possibilities may come up for you. I'll check in again tomorrow to see what you're thinking.

Take care my friend. Cyberhugs are the only ones I can give anyone currently. I hope you feel these.

MSR

[CArizona]

MSR...Thanks for caring. I don't have a lot of leisure time right now...I'm moving things out of storage. Helping local friends with some of their issues, etc...Been busy! But I do take time out to think about my family. And deal with my feelings. (When need be.)...Are you nervous about your procedure next week? Do you have anything special planned for the holiday weekend?..Thanks again for caring. Thanks for remembering what I've written about my family!

[Mtn. States Resident]

Originally Posted by CArizona

MSR...Thanks for caring. I don't have a lot of leisure time right now...I'm moving things out of storage. Helping local friends with some of their issues, etc...Been busy! But I do take time out to think about my family. And deal with my feelings. (When need be.)...Are you nervous about your procedure next week? Do you have anything special planned for the holiday weekend?..Thanks again for caring. Thanks for remembering what I've written about my family!

CA,

It's good to hear how you've gotten yourself involved
with so many others and there projects. A year ago, I don't know if you could have imagined what you are doing now.

I'll get back to you about me. No, I'm looking forward to the procedure.

Take care of yourself as you remember your guys.

MSR