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Originally Posted by Raven1976
Thank you for all the posts everyone has made. Reading your stories has been sad and unfortunately almost everyone has to go through this emotional process of losing a parent at one time or another.
I find it difficult at school because I teach preschool kids and a lot of them come in with their dads in the morning and that always makes me sad. Sometimes they turn to me and ask ,"Do you have a daddy?" I always have to try so hard not to cry when I get asked that, but they don't understand so I just always tell them that I have a mommy and daddy just like them.
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"Yes, I do, and he was the best.
" Smiling all the while as she spoke to the little children. They return her smile thinking to themselves that that cannot be true, because it is their dad who is really the best.
She can detect the little girls thoughts. Smiling even bigger now, the teacher thinks to herself that she would have the very same thought at that age, as her little girl student has right now.
These thoughts and feelings make her happy. She looks back to her childhood remembering the times when she was little. It's hard not to cry when death is such a sad thing. With that said, it is hard not to smile when we think of those we have lost and the joy they brought to us while they were here on this earth.
When she needs to smile or to entertain a happy thought, she looks back. Back to before he was gone. Back to is smile, and his hugs. His praises. Back to it will be ok, Daddy is here. For he was there. For he IS there, in her heart forever, just as strong today as that day when you were a little girl.
We may not be able to see him with our eyes. It is when we close our eyes and open our minds, our hearts that we see him and he is so very real. So real we could touch him. So real we can feel his presence. It is only when we open our eyes and close our minds to the knowledge of what was that the sadness comes to us.
The people we have lost are never completely gone from this world because they live on each and every day through us. Through the impact they had on us while they were here. Through the lives they lived while they were here, no matter how good or bad. They are always just a step away. All we need to do is form our lips into an upward smile, close our eyes and think back to the times when they were right beside us again. The people we love never leave us forever, just for a little while.
This, of course, dependent upon our beliefs. It is my belief that when a person dies, as long as they were saved, will go above us. They will look down upon us everyday.
They are there, and they wait for us. For them, there is no time, in paradise, I do not think time exists. For us, the time we have to wait can feel eternal. It can feel sad.
As our lost one looks down upon us, they can see our tears, our anguish. They do not want us to be sad. It is not ever what they wanted, and I am sure they would do anything to make the tears and sadness go away, just as they would in life.
So then we wait. We wait until the day comes that we will see them again. We live our lives. We try to be happy. We think to ourselves, "What would he have done in this situation?" We smile, because the answers we have been looking for where there all along. We just did not know where to find them.
I know I will see my parents again some day. I imagine it will be like I never lost them. This thought makes me happy . It fills me with promise for a new day.
It makes life livable. The promise makes everything okay.
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