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I feel like in the case of substance abuse;there is a lot of potential for someone to actually become "changed".
But I'm leery about people who are not in long term recovery. Allow them to make their amends but I'd still require a wait & see period.
I say this as a recovering addict myself. I used for a very long term period & I know recovery does not happen overnight. But because of this I actually isolated myself from people, including my own family until I felt somewhat more stable.
I have a great family & they simply deserved better than what I had to offer at the time!
People who are "born" that way or have that almost predatory user type personality scare me. Honestly, IDK; is it even possible for them to change?
My Mom is toxic like nuclear fallout. I cut her out of my life 30 plus years ago and never regretted it. It was a life saver.
Mines is too. I haven't seen her in 25 years. At 63, she's still very toxic. Just mean for no reason. I cannot figure out why she's still so angry because family and others avoid her like the plague. Perhaps she's mad at the world. I dunno, but I do know I want no part of her.
If they sincerely apologized, showed a lot of regret years later and showed that they changed?
No I don't think so. Not my family. A whole nest of p#unk#ss spoiled liars,bullies, manipulators, ho's and greedy money-grubbers. Some of them died, and it's just as well. I'm a good person, but that's how badly I've been hurt and used. Yet another year I was alone for thanksgiving. No one invited me over, they chose to eork instead of spend time with their relatives. Being cursed with a family like this makes me despise Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Forgive is one thing. Forgetting is another. I may appreciate their apology, but wouldn't want to risk bringing them back in and them falling into old habits again. But this depends on how serious it was. Since you say "toxic", I am assuming it's very bad.
So their apology would probably be how we end things on a good note. But it wouldn't be the start of a continuing relationship.
Some clown reped me on this just to say not cooking a turkey was selfish of me. On a 10 month old thread.
Talk about a moron who totally misses the point.
Wow! A lot of people don't like turkey and no it isn't selfish to not cook something you don't like.
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