Could you, as a non-smoker/user, be friends with smokers/users? (compulsive, relatives)
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I would not go out and seek smoking friends, but I did have a friend who smoked until she died in her early 90's but I wasn't around her much at the end years of her life for sure. We had our talks in earlier yrs of friendship but she was not about to stop smoking. We had enough interests to stay friends.
My daughter married a smoker, sadly he died at 55, didn't see his kids graduate high school or enter colleges. sad.
Not anymore. The smell is too much. Smokers never think they smell. They do - or maybe I just have a sensitive nose. I briefly dated a smoker who never smoked around me, but my clothes and hair would smell after spending time with him because of the ambient smoke smell in his car and apartment.
I have a few coworkers who smoke and you can smell them coming down the hall. We're a fragrance-free office but for some reason won't reprimand the very small handful of coworkers who smell of smoke.
I'll admit, a big part of my disdain is that my only risk factor for developing stage IV cancer at 23 was exposure to 2nd hand smoke as a kid. I have ZERO patience for smokers who expose others to harm.
If you are a non-smoker/user, could you intentionally associate, even be friends with a smoker, vaper, dipper, et cetera? Drug user? Weed user? Edibles eaters? The list goes on.
I don't smoke. I have friends who smoke (they are considerate enough to not smoke around us)
I will not associate with drug or cannabis users. I have a professional medical license and a CCW that would be impacted by associating with a felon.
Could I? In my experience, they often make it hard... exhaling smoke in other's faces, smoking too close to open doors or windows or lighting up before they close the door to shield others from smoke. The tenant downstairs sits on the stairs that come up to my door & smokes all hours of the day/night, cuz I can smell it coming underneath the door. I despise that his addiction affects my life.
I have asthma, so am careful to guard my breathing. I've made the mistake of going to people's homes before asking about the possibility of smokers (I do now), where they've had a house filled with chain smokers & I felt I needed to go to the hospital when I left.
It's bad enough that smokers wreak... I don't want to, also. If I ate garlic or another food or drink others didn't like, I might have the smell of it on my breath, but the other person wouldn't leave the room smelling like fish or garlic until they took a bath & washed their clothing. With smoking, it affects everyone in the room & in a negative way. I've finally reached an age where I wouldn't remain in a smoky environment, just to be polite... I'd leave.
So, I guess my answer is no, not any longer. Don't wish them ill, but they're habit makes me ill. I'm also an active person, so I'd venture to guess most smokers aren't runners, swimmers, hikers, etc., so we'd have nothing in common to do together anyway. I also once dated a smoker in my 20s. I was too polite to speak up for myself & suffered through headaches & asthma & his berating me for "having" asthma. No need to ever go through that again. There are plenty of smokers on the planet other smokers can date.
I'm an ex-smoker so I like to smell the smoke from smokers.
omg me TOO.
I love the smell of it...to a point. Just to stand next to someone who smokes and smell the fumes for a few seconds. lol
But that's about it. Then it gets gross.
I can understand being friends with a smoker, but marrying one? I don't know how a non-smoker could do it. I flat-out refuse to go out on a date with anyone who smokes. No smokers, dopers or alcoholics has been a hard and fast rule my entire life. Even if a relationship doesn't work out, at least my clothes and home don't stink.
I'm a smoker and, for comfort reasons, I prefer to hang around other smokers. I just get too nervous being around non-smokers, as courteous as I may be with them.
NO -- because cigarette and cigar smoke makes me literally nauseated. However, I could be -- and I am -- friendly with smokers, but it's just not to the point of being around them for any great amount of time.
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