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You are not having any fun. This is not a vacation for you. PLUS, you get to pay for almost all of it. Tell him you are done with it. End of discussion. Don't let him badger you into going on another trip because clearly nothing will change with him.
You're pretty good at describing your issues with him to us.
Now say the same thing TO him.
If it were me, I'd say, I'm done sharing rooms... I need better sleep and I don't want to be thrown out of my room because you have a guest again. Next trip, we each get our own hotel rooms. Or we don't go. Then stick to that.
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I'm looking for a traveling partner. I'll pay my share. And if you've been there before, I'll pay more than my share for your experience. We can meet, coffee, and check compatability.
Even if you told him about your frustrations with money (fixable) and behavior (not fixable), I don’t think he’s a good travel companion for you. There are travel options for single travelers and you might experiment and find a tour, cruise or resort (with side trips) for single travelers quite enjoyable.
I wouldn’t ditch the friendship with all that kind of inevitable drama. Just don’t travel with him any more and do a soft phase out of your interactions with him.
OP, at what point does it dawn on you, that you two aren't compatible? How does this person even fit the definition of "friend"? How bad do things need to get, before you realize, that at the very least, you two aren't compatible for traveling?
Next time (if there is a next time): get separate rooms, so you can have your own sleep schedule. If he doesn't want to pay for his own room, he doesn't have to go. AND, the next time he asks you when you two will be going on vaca again, tell him to let you know when he has his hotel fees saved up. Explain that you need to have your own room, so you can get the sleep you need, so you can fully enjoy the vacation. That's a very reasonable statement.
OP, could you explain how it is, that an adult male is afraid to travel alone? What are you afraid of, exactly?
You should try taking a vacation alone because it's a lot more fun. I have done it, and it's much easier doing what I want to, without having to negotiate with another person.
You don't have to end the friendship. But you should tell him you don't want to travel with him anymore because the two of your aren't compatible traveling companions. If he asks why - give him your reasons. If he chooses to end the friendship because of that, then that is his choice.
Frankly, if I were in your situation, getting kicked out of my room so that my companion could hook up with a stranger would have been the final straw.
You need to get this drama Queen out of your life.
You go on vacation to enjoy yourself not to be stressed out about bills because you have a "selfish" friend.
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