19 yo told me that she is sexually active (15 year old, adult, problem)
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I really do understand what you are saying about offering encouragement to the OP.
I am completely stunned, though, at the volatile reaction to more conservative beliefs.
These things don't stun me anymore. I've learned I have to stay out of threads regarding views on sex because my view is now the view of a tiny minority I guess.
These things don't stun me anymore. I've learned I have to stay out of threads regarding views on sex because my view is now the view of a tiny minority I guess.
Ha! Join in--I need you!
(I wonder though, are we really in a minority, or just in a minorty on C-D?)
WOW- I had no idea this many would reply. I appreciate all of the positive and negative responses- she is very involved in school and I doubt she has time for sex every day -she said once or twice a week- No I don't like it but it is her life and she is being responsible. I know it isn't reality these days to wait until marriage- She of course thinks this is her life partner and i doubt it is but it could be-you never know. I am proud that we have a relationship that she can tell me- I would have never told my mother back in the 80's....
Let me just add that I was subject to lots of criticism for marrying at such a young age. When we tell young people not to marry until they've obtained a degree, worked a little, and established themselves, I don't think we should be surprised by premarital sex.
These things don't stun me anymore. I've learned I have to stay out of threads regarding views on sex because my view is now the view of a tiny minority I guess.
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Originally Posted by calgirlinnc
Ha! Join in--I need you!
(I wonder though, are we really in a minority, or just in a minorty on C-D?)
No I do not think either one of you are a minority.
I think a majority of posters in here just feel that it is best to be cautious and not always think that our own child will turn out the way we want them to be no matter how much we try to instill morals, values, religion in them.
At the end of the day they are their own person.
We can only hope and in your case pray that they turn out for the best. I am not just talking about sex, I am talking about the broad spectrum of things including drugs, alcohol and laziness.
WOW- I had no idea this many would reply. I appreciate all of the positive and negative responses- she is very involved in school and I doubt she has time for sex every day -she said once or twice a week- No I don't like it but it is her life and she is being responsible. I know it isn't reality these days to wait until marriage- She of course thinks this is her life partner and i doubt it is but it could be-you never know. I am proud that we have a relationship that she can tell me- I would have never told my mother back in the 80's....
I hope that my daughter and I have that kind of closeness when she is older. I am happy for you. I know it wasn't news you really wanted, but I admire how you are handling it.
No I do not think either one of you are a minority.
I think a majority of posters in here just feel that it is best to be cautious and not always think that our own child will turn out the way we want them to be no matter how much we try to instill morals, values, religion in them.
At the end of the day they are their own person.
We can only hope and in your case pray that they turn out for the best. I am not just talking about sex, I am talking about the broad spectrum of things including drugs, alcohol and laziness.
So true!!
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Originally Posted by hlsess
WOW- I had no idea this many would reply. I appreciate all of the positive and negative responses- she is very involved in school and I doubt she has time for sex every day -she said once or twice a week- No I don't like it but it is her life and she is being responsible. I know it isn't reality these days to wait until marriage- She of course thinks this is her life partner and i doubt it is but it could be-you never know. I am proud that we have a relationship that she can tell me- I would have never told my mother back in the 80's....
Sometimes our children do disappoint us...but you should be proud of your relationship with her!!
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