19 yo told me that she is sexually active (orphan, party, teenage)

[CD's Only Mrs. X]

Originally Posted by calgirlinnc

I don't want my daughter to be having sex when she's 19.

I don't want my son to have sex before he is 18

And this is why you as a parent have to be open and honest with your child regarding views on sex, love and children.

But saying that we as parents do not have 'control' over what our children will do once they go off to college and begin their lives. We can't stand guard at their dorm rooms wondering if the next boy or girl who enters is the 'one' that will take them over to the 'dark side'.

[Drover]

Originally Posted by calgirlinnc

I don't want my daughter to be having sex when she's 19.

Well, good luck with that.

[CD's Only Mrs. X]

Originally Posted by formercalifornian

Can I play my "not me" card here? Still going strong and having plenty of good sex after 22 years.

BTW, I have no problem with a 19-year-old having a sexual relationship.

Focal its ok!

I am glad that there are people out there that have waited and have great sex after all these years!

Mr. X's great aunt was one and she was recently buried with her true love.

It is relationships like yours and hers that I do envy because I wish it would have been the same for Mr. X and I. But I am a believer that if I didnot go through my experiences with other men I probably would have never met Mr. X.

[Drover]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

ok, but what is she getting out of it. she is giving her youth and beauty non refundable. french girls have a very different take on this stuff.

Huh??

[formercalifornian]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

ok, but what is she getting out of it. she is giving her youth and beauty non refundable. french girls have a very different take on this stuff.

You may not believe this, but youth and beauty are no guarantee of good sex.

[Kibbiekat]

This is one of those life decisions that is not going to be the same for everyone. I waited until I was 20, and I wish I hadn't waited that long. I think I'm the exception, not the norm. I see a lot of positives in the OP's situation. Her daughter is open and honest. Her daughter is in a long-term relationship. Her daughter is on BC. We're talking about a 19yo, not a 15 yo.

[calgirlinnc]

Originally Posted by Drover

Well, good luck with that.

See, this is exactly what I mean.

I guess biological urges are completely overwhelming to everyone.

Why should I even bother teaching my children morality, since they won't be able to control their urges?

What in heaven's name is wrong teaching my children to wait?

I know I can't put an exact number on it, but there is a big difference in the emotional maturity of a 23 year old vs. a 19 year old.

What I'm hearing from a lot of you is, well high school is not OK, but college is.

So am I expected to believe there is a huge difference between a 18 year old HS senior and a 19 y.o. college freshman?

I don't believe it.

[formercalifornian]

Huge, huge leap from 18-20! Just wait.

[Drover]

Originally Posted by calgirlinnc

See, this is exactly what I mean.

I guess biological urges are completely overwhelming to everyone.

Why should I even bother teaching my children morality, since they won't be able to control their urges?

What in heaven's name is wrong teaching my children to wait?

I know I can't put an exact number on it, but there is a big difference in the emotional maturity of a 23 year old vs. a 19 year old.

What I'm hearing from a lot of you is, well high school is not OK, but college is.

So am I expected to believe there is a huge difference between a 18 year old HS senior and a 19 y.o. college freshman?

I don't believe it.

OK, well good luck with that.

[formercalifornian]

Still not a moral issue. It's an emotional issue.