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You don't think if having a condom in your possesion is all it would take for a teen to get laid, they wouldn't just go spend $5 on a box from 7-11?
That seems way quicker and easier to me than waiting all through high school for senior prom just for a free one.
Jeez, a lot of people don't even have enough faith in their own parenting; they think if you give their kid a condom: BOOM, sexual intercourse will, and must, insue.
You don't think if having a condom in your possesion is all it would take for a teen to get laid, they wouldn't just go spend $5 on a box from 7-11?
That seems way quicker and easier to me than waiting all through high school for senior prom just for a free one.
Jeez, a lot of people don't even have enough faith in their own parenting; they think if you give their kid a condom: BOOM, sexual intercourse will, and must, insue.
That's the thing too in that sex is such a personal personal decision that parenting has little to do with whether or not your child is going to engage in it or not. It will help determine if they delay it or if they feel comfortable enough coming to you for bc or to talk. However it's not going to stop them once they have it in their mind to do it.
States with schools that teach abstinence based sex ed have a MUCH higher rate of teen pregnancy. Pregnancy among teens nation wide is dropping...expect in 'red' states that teach abstinence only. The five states with the highest rate of teen pregnancy are all abstinence only states.
Teens are going to have sex. Teaching abstinence only simply means they aren't prepared. They're also more embarrassed and ashamed, so they aren't going to pick up that condom from a bowl or carry one in a wallet where a parent could possibly find it. So when they crack, there's no safety net for them.
If you believe your child will be abstinent because you've already have the talk and you feel they share your beliefs, free condoms should be no threat to you.
I am NOT advocating for abstinence based sex ed. I am merely pointing out that in large areas of the country, that is what the school boards, in response to parents and religious leaders, have chosen as the curriculum.
But I stand by my feelings that abstinence itself is not a bad thing.
That's the thing too in that sex is such a personal personal decision that parenting has little to do with whether or not your child is going to engage in it or not. It will help determine if they delay it or if they feel comfortable enough coming to you for bc or to talk. However it's not going to stop them once they have it in their mind to do it.
I guess the biggest issue I have with this condom give-away is the idea that prom = sex. Despite what one hears about high school students these days, not all of them are having sex. For many kids, prom is their first big date, and the idea that one should have sex on a first date is inappropriate.
That said, I'd rather see kids who are having sex use condoms than get pregnant.
I am NOT advocating for abstinence based sex ed. I am merely pointing out that in large areas of the country, that is what the school boards, in response to parents and religious leaders, have chosen as the curriculum.
But I stand by my feelings that abstinence itself is not a bad thing.
No it's the best thing there is considering the hormonal nature of teens. However it is also not logical to teach as a viable method due to said hormones. And areas like that would never allow condoms to be passed out anyway.
I don't neccessarily believe providing a "bowl of condoms" will cause a teen to have sex. For those teens who were taught differently I don't think it makes a difference at all. I mean there are other ways to obtain condoms if they want it.
I personally never thought about teaching my children abstinence as a method of "birth control." It was more due to issues of morality(for lack of a better term) or the possible emotional and physical ramifications of sex that I feel children/teens aren't equipped to handle.
When I discuss sex with my child I speak of the whole spectrum; abstinence until marriage--the reasons why I feel it's best, in addition to what would/could happen if they choose not to wait and how to protect themselves if they choose not to. And it's a fair discussion, no fear tactics However, I don't advocate sex before marriage by any means, nor will I! I am completely unmoved by the "teens will have sex, abstinence is unrealistic mumbo jumbo. As a parent I will provide what I believe is the best information---'cause, you know, I am the parent (I chose to have sex before marriage. I was very open with my oldest, and so was his father, about the ramifications of that decision).
If my children decide to have sex before then, knock yourself out! It's your choice and your consequence. They would have already been through the discussion of the best thing to do by their parents and they already know not to expect us aiding them in that decsion by providing them with any tools to do what we don't condone. At that point, I don't have anything to do with it!
I am NOT advocating for abstinence based sex ed. I am merely pointing out that in large areas of the country, that is what the school boards, in response to parents and religious leaders, have chosen as the curriculum.
But I stand by my feelings that abstinence itself is not a bad thing.
Abstinence is definitely not a bad thing. Teaching it as the only form of birth control and STD prevention, however, most definitely is bad.
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However, I don't advocate sex before marriage by any means, nor will I! I am completely unmoved by the "teens will have sex, abstinence is unrealistic mumbo jumbo. As a parent I will provide what I believe is the best information---'cause, you know, I am the parent (I chose to have sex before marriage. I was very open with my oldest, and so was his father, about the ramifications of that decision).
