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Yes, as I suspected you are the poster who comes here under different usernames to work out your "bad dad" pathology with stories about defenseless mothers and children.
So it would make things uncomfortable for you? Well, then that's a totally reasonable explanation of why you would spend the rest of your life lying to her and denying your child a relationship with his grandmother.
I'll have to think better about this. I want to make a decision as soon as possible.
My mother would never accept my decision of not having contact with my son. She wouldn't stop nagging me about it.
Well that's a horse of another color. I don't think I could accept similar behavior from my own sons, so man up. You can stay out of your child's life, except for support, but your parents shouldn't be the secondary victims here. Tell them.
Way to go in making young woman pregnant and stunt her forward progress . Quick, apply for abortion NOW (if she doesn't want a kid), or man up and learn how to be a good dad. The child would suffer coming into this world without a father to protect and nurture.
There were 2 involved in this pregnancy. A man has the condom and a vasectomy for contraception, a woman has
caps
combined pill
contraceptive implant
contraceptive injection
contraceptive patch
diaphragms
intrauterine device (IUD)
intrauterine system (IUS)
natural family planning
progestogen-only pill
vaginal ring
There are probably more I don't know about, yet you only cast blame on the man? The both of them are responsible but I believe the woman has more power and more options to prevent a pregnancy. If you are going to have sex and you do not want preganancies, make use of the avaliable options or make sure the woman does. I see this thread as a stark reminder and a warning.
There are far too many single parent families already so let this be a reminder to others. I also believe the OP does not see the bigger picture concerning this either.
RMOS99 -- Hello. I just want to add that while that little baby is taking 9 months to grow, you [Dad] and Mom also have some time to grow into your new roles. My suggestion - Open up that ultrasound picture she sent you, take a look at the tiny baby growing inside. Then, put on a sweater, and go outside and take a walk. Have your route go by a neighborhood park. Pause a couple of minutes as you watch the children playing. Look at the moms and dads and grandparents. Then, RMOS99, continue your walk. And while you are walking, try praying. And thinking. I am guessing everything will work out for you. Be thankful that the little baby is healthy. Smile at the guy you see in the mirror! This will work.
I will probably be the voice of dissent here--if you don't want to be involved (beyond your legal and financial obligations), then don't. As long as you know the child will be well cared for and loved by the people who will be in his life.
However, DO NOT MAKE A DECISION NOW. Wait until you meet the baby and hold him. Even if you don't want to meet him as a newborn, force yourself to do it at least once before making this decision. Take it from me, you may feel very, very different once you see the living breathing child that is part of you.
Also, have an attorney represent you because even people with the best of intentions can devolve into a terrible situation as support and custody issues go on.
This is never going to be the ideal situation but I would feel a lot worse if I stayed around and ended up making him unhappy.
the only way you can make him unhappy is to ignore him while he grows up! get with it, you may just find you have a great buddy in life. it doesn't take a lot to be a good dad, especially if you are non custodial. a little effort will go a long way.
?..... I've got the job I want (engineering), I have a nice house, the car I wanted, I enjoy travelling to exotic places and not having to answer to anything or anyone besides my job.
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Stay away. Kids got enough **** to **** him or her up than a selfish father who doesn't want to be there.
Yes, as I suspected you are the poster who comes here under different usernames to work out your "bad dad" pathology with stories about defenseless mothers and children.
Carry on.
This.
Is your father a physician yet you've never seen a doctor?
Well that's a horse of another color. I don't think I could accept similar behavior from my own sons, so man up. You can stay out of your child's life, except for support, but your parents shouldn't be the secondary victims here. Tell them.
My relationship with her would never be the same. I don't expect her to understand my reasons because she loves children.
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. Quick, apply for abortion NOW (if she doesn't want a kid), or man up and learn how to be a good dad. The child would suffer coming into this world without a father to protect and nurture.
