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Originally Posted by msRB311
I get that. People mostly only think of the good, happy moments to look forward to when pregnant
Because the good, happy moments outweigh morning sickness & our lack of sleep to come. AND…who can live in the moment if they are thinking about what ifs in 20 years. That’s anxiety.
Because the good, happy moments outweigh morning sickness & our lack of sleep to come. AND…who can live in the moment if they are thinking about what ifs in 20 years. That’s anxiety.
I agree. I think it's good to think ahead but not necessarily about unpleasant things that may or may not happen. Maybe you'll get lucky and have a baby that sleeps really well. It happens!
Okay, without reading all the replies (so sorry if I repeat someone else's thoughts) here's what I'd do:
"Mike. Son. I gave you life. You're my flesh and blood. I am going to insist on hugging you. Figure out the best way to take it and get ready because I will hug you if I have to wait until you're asleep, which will actually feel creepy. BUT I'LL DO IT! Don't make me hug you in your sleep, son."
I'm telling you, I'd have to break through that little whatever attitude and make him smile and make him TOLERATE hugs from his mom. I'm a mom with sons. The oldest stands like a stick when I hug him but he likes it inside. Trust me.
Even hugging a stick is good for you if that stick is your son.
For goodness sakes, DON'T DO THIS. You have no right to be forcing hugs on your son. Nor waking him up to "Hug him".
What is wrong with you??
This is SICK. This is what someone with a serious personality disorder would say. Someone who is NOT SAFE to hug
Anyhow to respond, this may be a sign of coming mental illness. This was the first sign my son had schizophrenia. You do NOT force a hug on anyone but mores it's frightening if they are mentally ill. Or other signs like alcoholism/drug abuse can result. There should never be anything "To take" A hug is not something "we take" like a spanking. Your son comes first, he's an adult man. Repeat him as a grown man telling you NO. No woman should ever be forcing an adult man to hug them.
Of course, ask if it is okay to hug him if you know differently.Let them know they are doing YOU a favor. It is not obligatory but you love them so naturally want to hug them. You could even do it as your yearly birthday gift. Tone it down but ensure they understand how much you care about them and naturally want to hug them.
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Last edited by Pip-Squeak; 04-21-2023 at 11:52 AM..
I'm not a hugger by nature, but it's become sooooo commonplace that I've assimilated somewhat just to keep from offending people. I'm not hug initiator.
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