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So rather than be happy for your friend, you made it about you.
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Originally Posted by Mattie
I'm sure she would have been happy for her friend, until she was told she was 9th on the friend list. I'd have trouble mustering some congratulations under those circumstances too.
Don't understand 1st post and I couldn't improve on the 2nd one........
It wasn't that hard to get. Instead of being happy for her friend's fortune, she's still brooding about being excluded. Not everyone can be included in everything, people.
So rather than be happy for your friend, you made it about you.
You're one of those, I see. You assume that you know the entire conversation that I had with her based on what I wrote on this forum. It's really stupid to assume. What I said here I did not say to her. Not everyone is as classless as those who jump to conclusions based on their own personal problems.
Don't understand 1st post and I couldn't improve on the 2nd one........
Ol' Bitey seems to think that I railed in to my "friend" for not inviting me...clearly missing the entire point of the post. So that ol' Bitey can calm her knickers, I'll share that what I did was listen to my "friend" talk about her exciting win, talk about all of the friends that are going with her, talk about where it was, what they were going to do, how fabulous it all was going to be. Then, when she realized, ON HER OWN, ol' Bitey, that she was being extremely rude, she quickly threw in that a friend of hers may not go, if that happened, she would be picking me up to go. Not once did I "make it about me". Even when the "friend" called the next day to talk about all of the fun she had, not once did I "make it about me". I once again listened to her carry on about what a fabulous time they all had. What I shared here is how it made me feel, but ol' Bitey, unless your name is Amanda and you live in Miami, she doesn't have a clue how it made me feel because I never told her.
Now go on with your little life ol' Bitey, assuming and insulting as you go. Feel free to take a good long look in the mirror and see about polishing up that class.
You're one of those, I see. You assume that you know the entire conversation that I had with her based on what I wrote on this forum. It's really stupid to assume. What I said here I did not say to her. Not everyone is as classless as those who jump to conclusions based on their own personal problems.
You're the one who's still clinging to what in the grand scheme of things is a minor sleight that you'll "never forget." So all this time later, yeah, it's still about you. Own it.
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Originally Posted by Three Wolves In Snow
Ol' Bitey seems to think that I railed in to my "friend" for not inviting me...
I never said anything of the sort. You're one to lecture about making assumptions.
Three Wolves in Snow: I can totally understand why what your friend did, upset you. I also would be at the very least, offended if someone I considered a good friend, talked about an event that they didn't invite me to. I think that is a normal reaction.
It wasn't that hard to get. Instead of being happy for her friend's fortune, she's still brooding about being excluded. Not everyone can be included in everything, people.
I didn't see anywhere that she said she is still brooding about it. She simply told us the story. I don't think it ruined her life or anything. I think you are reading things into it, that are not there. I think you should just let it go. It is what it is.
I didn't see anywhere that she said she is still brooding about it. She simply told us the story. I don't think it ruined her life or anything.
"I'll never forget the day a 'friend'" . . . If she wasn't so good a friend that the word "friend" has to be qualified in quotes, why is it a that she'll never forget how she was excluded and continues to retell the story today?
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Originally Posted by tassity22
I think you are reading things into it, that are not there. I think you should just let it go. It is what it is.
If you want me to let it go, then don't respond to my posts. "I get to stir it up but you should let it go." That's not how it works.
Just wanted thoughts on this. My daughter was playing with the kids next door. It was time to come in so when I went out to get her I saw all the kids talking to a neighbor. The neighbor is the mother of a boy a bit younger than my daughter. My daughter comes in through the patio doors upset and the next door kid walks right behind her telling me my daughter is upset because she didn't get invited to the party. Not only did she not receive an invite but the boy runs to my patio, sits on the chairs and starts telling me he is having a party. My daughter can hear all this and the boy's mom is still right outside her house seeing all this (we live in townhouses so we share some of the back yard- no fencing). When I'm finally alone with my daughter she asks me why the mom didn't invite her. Now, this boy plays as much with my daughter as with the other kids. Of course I don't think the boy had bad intentions, but I do think the mother was incredibly inconsiderate and gave no care in the world that she was hurting my kids feelings. If the boy had been giving out the invitations it would have been different but it was the mother and my daughter was right there with the rest of the kids. Also, I'm not expecting my kid to be included in all parties but there are ways to be sensitive about this. I want to keep my daughter innocent as much as possible but I don't think I'm doing her any favors by sugar coating things. I explained to her that it was ok if she doesn't get invited to some birthday parties, I also reminded her of how she gets invited to many during the year. I also pointed out that the neighbor was rude in inviting other kids like that in front of her if she wasn't going to invite her. I told her we (my husband and I) would not do that to other kids and reminded her of how we invited her friends to her last birthday (mailing invitations to some of the girls in her classroom so the rest of the kids would not get hurt). I also told her that now I would not feel comfortable if she went to the boys birthday because now we knew the mom was rude. She has reached the age (6) where children can be mean to each other and I've been teaching her that we can't force people to be nice. People will be nice if they want and no one can make someone be nice. So when I mentioned the mother being rude, she understood me immediately. She got over the issue almost as soon as the conversation was over. I don't feel the need to talk to the neighbor. I've learned myself that not everyone will act the way I would and more importantly they will not care (clearly she didn't). But it doesn't stop shocking me that people can be thoughtless, inconsiderate and rude.
When my daughter was in first grade, a girl she was friends with had a birthday party. She invited every girl in the class except my daughter and another girl. Then, to top it off, the mom picked up all the kids after school that day so my daughter was the only girl left behind (the other non-invited girl wasn't there that day). This broke my heart. My daughter had been to this girl's house before as she had also been to ours. My daughter thought they were best friends. I actually called the mom to see if something had happened that I wasn't aware of. She just got all defensive and said she had a small house (bigger than ours) and didn't have room for everyone.
I agree that some moms are just incredibly rude and inconsiderate.
Ironically, the girl that had the party fully expected to be invited to MY daughter's b'day party two weeks later......?
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