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Old 03-07-2017, 02:02 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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Don't tell people to move out and support themselves if they want to set their own rules and then call it throwing a tempter tantrum when they do.
It doesn't work like that.
If she wants to work so she can move out her parents house that's an adult decision.
No ones just going to want their entire life dictated.
Actually, it does. Your stuff is on the porch, and you have 30 days to vacate the premises.

It's so simple.
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Old 03-07-2017, 02:07 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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Lol what?
My moms overreactions and controlling did not suddenly seem reasonable just because I became aware of how much it cost to live on your own.

She still seemed crazy and I just simply knew how much it would cost me.
I moved out and took the cost instead.

Having a curfew, bedtime and not allowed to be in a relationship or have sex at 20 will never be reasonable no matter what.

I had to sneak out and lie at 20/21.
It is reasonable. Again, you have 30 days to leave before the police force you to. Not that hard.

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Old 03-07-2017, 04:53 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Me neither. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all having sex with my parents in the same house. So, even if there was a rule about me not having sex while I live in their house, I'd gladly follow it, lol.
Heck, hubby and I used to visit his parents for one to two weeks almost every year for Christmas and as a married couple we still did not feel comfortable having sex when they were home, as the walls were so thin. We either abstained the entire vacation or waited until they were both out of house (that rarely happened).

And, several of my girl friends have shared the same thing (that they refrained from sex with their husband when visiting either set of parents).
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Old 03-07-2017, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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Why would they even know?
Lock the door and bite a pillow if you have to.

I once had to stay out in Denver for like a month while dealing with a family emergency years ago and my boyfriend and I shared and room and everything. We had no idea how long we'd be there.

What are you supposed to do in that situation? Abstain for a whole month?
I rather shove my own foot up my ass.
Lol, you really think they wouldn't know, or at least heavily suspect?

I'd either wait till the parents were out of the house, or just probably abstain. For me, it's hard to have sex when I know there are others in the house (or any sort of area) in general.
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Old 03-07-2017, 06:37 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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Lol, you really think they wouldn't know, or at least heavily suspect?

I'd either wait till the parents were out of the house, or just probably abstain. For me, it's hard to have sex when I know there are others in the house (or any sort of area) in general.
I'd just move out and stop depending on mommy and daddy for support.
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Old 03-07-2017, 08:34 PM
 
Location: (six-cent-dix-sept)
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Why would they even know?
Lock the door and bite a pillow if you have to.

I once had to stay out in Denver for like a month while dealing with a family emergency years ago and my boyfriend and I shared and room and everything. We had no idea how long we'd be there.

What are you supposed to do in that situation? Abstain for a whole month?
I rather shove my own foot up my ass.
hotel ?
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Old 03-07-2017, 09:19 PM
 
Location: super bizarre weather land
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Heck, hubby and I used to visit his parents for one to two weeks almost every year for Christmas and as a married couple we still did not feel comfortable having sex when they were home, as the walls were so thin. We either abstained the entire vacation or waited until they were both out of house (that rarely happened).

And, several of my girl friends have shared the same thing (that they refrained from sex with their husband when visiting either set of parents).
That's why we stay in a hotel or if we're back in our hometown visiting family and friends. Totally get it.
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Old 03-09-2017, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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Actually, it does. Your stuff is on the porch, and you have 30 days to vacate the premises.

It's so simple.
Why don't you reread what I said...

If you tell a person to move out and pay for their own stuff if they'd like to make the rules...and then they go on and move out and find elsewhere to do the activities they're not allowed to do at home....don't whine when they do.

The OP was whining about how the daughter started spending the night at her boyfriends.
Like what did she expect? She said no under her roof.
Her daughter found another roof to do it under.
So why was mom still crying like a little whiney baby?
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Old 03-09-2017, 03:07 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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That's why we stay in a hotel or if we're back in our hometown visiting family and friends. Totally get it.
Well my brothers girlfriend had commited suicide and he wasn't sleeping in his room anyways because he'd wake up and think she was still there and roll over and she'd be gone.
With how long we stayed at not like we could just sit there and throw out money everyday for a hotel. It wasn't a two day weekend trip.
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Old 03-09-2017, 03:09 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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Lol, you really think they wouldn't know, or at least heavily suspect?

I'd either wait till the parents were out of the house, or just probably abstain. For me, it's hard to have sex when I know there are others in the house (or any sort of area) in general.
My boyfriend and I stay at his parents when we visit and we don't abstain.
We have our own room and it's not like we sneak off in the middle of the day. First thing in he morning or before bed so people think you've just gone to bed or haven't gotten up yet.

It's not hard to be quiet.
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