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I don't see where she is fully committed to this relationship.
When the daughter stated this: She says she's thinking about quitting school and getting another job so she can move out. She throwing away her future!
That is a child throwing a tantrum to try and get her way. Not buying it. Time to grow up.
Don't tell people to move out and support themselves if they want to set their own rules and then call it throwing a tempter tantrum when they do.
It doesn't work like that.
If she wants to work so she can move out her parents house that's an adult decision.
No ones just going to want their entire life dictated.
I am one of those. Nobody is saying the kid is not an adult, and free to do whatever she wants. The issue is that her sleeping with her low life boyfriend under her parent's roof is upsetting to them. It is their house, and she should respect their wishes.
Okay?
So the OPs daughter began sleeping at the guys house since hanging out with him was such an issue at home.
The OP got what she wanted so she can't complain. If the daughter is going to the boyfriends it's no longer happening under the OPs roof.
I would have stayed home and finished school had I not been a 21 year old who had to lie about where I was spending the night.
Txt, you're grown up enough to be honest. You had many, many opportunities to finish school - or heck even seriously start school. The issues you had with your mother (or frankly ANY authority figure) were but just one of a slew of excuses to avoid accountability.
Txt, you're grown up enough to be honest. You had many, many opportunities to finish school - or heck even seriously start school. The issues you had with your mother (or frankly ANY authority figure) were but just one of a slew of excuses to avoid accountability.
It's called playing the blame game. Some people never see themselves as the problem. Some people also NEVER grow out of needing to have things their way.
Don't tell people to move out and support themselves if they want to set their own rules and then call it throwing a tempter tantrum when they do.
It doesn't work like that.
If she wants to work so she can move out her parents house that's an adult decision. No ones just going to want their entire life dictated.
I agree. That's why you move out so you can pick and choose how you want to live your life. It's called growing up.
I'm confused by a few things in this thread. First of all, what is the correlation between sex and respect? Why is having sex in one's parents' home disrespectful? Sex is a normal, necessary, healthy biological function. Why would I not want my child doing it?
I also don't understand what paying rent has to do with anything. Why do parents feel that they must exert so much control over their children? Let your children exhibit normal human behavior without scrutiny. And there's really no need to speculate about whether the relationship will last, whether the man is the right one for her, whatever else...she's dating a guy, and when people date, they have sex. That's what differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic one. It's healthy, and I would always encourage my children to have healthy relationships.
If my 11-year-old saw her sister cuddling with her boyfriend on the couch, I'd be happy that the younger child was seeing a model of an affectionate relationship. Physical affection, both romantic and sexual, is very important to most people in a relationship, and I want my kids to feel cared for and loved.
The obsession with making "house rules" is all about control, and it's completely unnecessary. I think OP needs to examine why she feels so uncomfortable with sex, and she needs to work through those issues on her own without imposing them on her daughter.
i'd feel a little awkward having sex within earshot of my parents. it wouldnt be a fun experience for me.
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i think the solution would be for the adults to rent a hotel room whenever they want some privacy.
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this is confusing; if the boyfriend got his own place then why are they choosing to go out of their way to be intimate in front of the family ?
assuming op is real, this answers my question:
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
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When you Google this topic, there is such a range of opinions, from those who would never dream of doing it in their parents' house to those who are turned on by the "naughty" factor.
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i'll rep you when i can.
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i'd feel a little awkward having sex within earshot of my parents. it wouldnt be a fun experience for me.
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assuming op is real, this answers my question:i'll rep you when i can.
Me neither. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all having sex with my parents in the same house. So, even if there was a rule about me not having sex while I live in their house, I'd gladly follow it, lol.
Me neither. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all having sex with my parents in the same house. So, even if there was a rule about me not having sex while I live in their house, I'd gladly follow it, lol.
Why would they even know?
Lock the door and bite a pillow if you have to.
I once had to stay out in Denver for like a month while dealing with a family emergency years ago and my boyfriend and I shared and room and everything. We had no idea how long we'd be there.
What are you supposed to do in that situation? Abstain for a whole month?
I rather shove my own foot up my ass.
Why would they even know?
Lock the door and bite a pillow if you have to.
I once had to stay out in Denver for like a month while dealing with a family emergency years ago and my boyfriend and I shared and room and everything. We had no idea how long we'd be there.
What are you supposed to do in that situation? Abstain for a whole month?
I rather shove my own foot up my ass.
I am laughing so hard, I am just dying! Oh the WOE! Holy entitled much?
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