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I'm wondering if she is just expressing the honest thoughts that many women have, but are afraid to admit.
'Dutton believes she simply lacked the wiring for motherhood. She never wanted kids, but didn't want to deny her husband the experience. But then she says some things that make me wonder whether her feelings might have as much to do with the choices she made as a parent than her choice to be a parent in the first place.
"I cannot understand mothers who insist they want children - especially those who undergo years of fertility treatment - then race back to work at the earliest opportunity after giving birth, leaving the vital job of caring for them to strangers… Why have them at all if you don't want to bring them up, or can't afford to? And why pretend you wanted them if you have no intention of raising them? This hypocrisy is, in my view, far more pernicious and difficult to fathom than my own admission that my life would have been better without children.'
I'm wondering if she is just expressing the honest thoughts that many women have, but are afraid to admit.
'Dutton believes she simply lacked the wiring for motherhood. She never wanted kids, but didn't want to deny her husband the experience. But then she says some things that make me wonder whether her feelings might have as much to do with the choices she made as a parent than her choice to be a parent in the first place.
"I cannot understand mothers who insist they want children - especially those who undergo years of fertility treatment - then race back to work at the earliest opportunity after giving birth, leaving the vital job of caring for them to strangers… Why have them at all if you don't want to bring them up, or can't afford to? And why pretend you wanted them if you have no intention of raising them? This hypocrisy is, in my view, far more pernicious and difficult to fathom than my own admission that my life would have been better without children.'
No need to wonder, mystery solved. She didn't want kids and had them anyway. She needs to realize that this is HER story and not make assumptions about others.
I'm wondering if she is just expressing the honest thoughts that many women have, but are afraid to admit.
'Dutton believes she simply lacked the wiring for motherhood. She never wanted kids, but didn't want to deny her husband the experience. But then she says some things that make me wonder whether her feelings might have as much to do with the choices she made as a parent than her choice to be a parent in the first place.
"I cannot understand mothers who insist they want children - especially those who undergo years of fertility treatment - then race back to work at the earliest opportunity after giving birth, leaving the vital job of caring for them to strangers… Why have them at all if you don't want to bring them up, or can't afford to? And why pretend you wanted them if you have no intention of raising them? This hypocrisy is, in my view, far more pernicious and difficult to fathom than my own admission that my life would have been better without children.'
I think more than anything else, this is a good reason to make sure that you have common goals before you marry someone. People think they'll change someone, but that usually doesn't work out well in the end. It's not selfish to not want kids--it's honest. I did want children--desperately--but my life would have been easier and less stressful without mine, and there are moments when I've felt overwhelmed. Every mom feels that way at some point or another. I was willing to make that trade off--I adore my children and I don't want to think about my life without them--but when someone is honest enough to admit that they don't feel the same way, you need to listen.
And the OP is right--I think she's expressing the honest thoughts that many women have, but are afraid to admit.
What do you expect from a xenoestrogen created man jaw?
That's why you select hormonally intact girls.
There is a reason why men are attracted to female features, not something who just by the look of it would imply eating its own young. I could not tie a rope around it and jump off the edge of a cliff to get it up for that.
And the OP is right--I think she's expressing the honest thoughts that many women have, but are afraid to admit.
Too true.
I'd rather regret not having children.
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