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Sorry, not everyone stays "connected" 24/7 with their phone glued to their hand.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
I put my phone away at night and I don't text while driving, which could be up to 4 hours a day. People know if they need me urgently I will answer a call.
I think the OP may be overestimating how much importance the average person gives to text messaging.
Who exactly are you complaining about, OP? Who is not texting back fast enough, and on what issue?
Also very telling that OP thinks the flip phone was an invention of the 1970s.
Agree with both.
I also belong to people who aren't anxiously attached to their phones. Not nomophobic at all.
I only stay close to the phone when I am on call - a weekend every 10 weeks and still not checking messages every few minutes. Very important stuff should be called, not texted, anyway.
Agree with both.
I also belong to people who aren't anxiously attached to their phones. Not nomophobic at all.
I only stay close to the phone when I am on call - a weekend every 10 weeks and still not checking messages every few minutes. Very important stuff should be called, not texted, anyway.
Haha....Yep, I even have a couple of friends who refuse to have cell phones......If you want to get in touch with them, you can call their land line and .....are you ready for this, OP?......leave a message on a recording machine....or you can go to their house......
I make sure I check my email, texts and voicemails once every day or so.....if it's seriously important they can call.
I'm one of those people who always responds back to texts within a matter of minutes. That is mainly because I always have the phone on me just like everyone else. Unless you're a new mom who have like 3 little kids running around and got baby duties and that is almost like 10% of people we know, if that. So majority of the people have no excuse to not text back or unless you live in a box and still carry a flip phone that you need to mail back to the 70s.
Am I the only one who is so responsive? Are there people out there who can relate?
So only new moms get a pass in your world? Nobody else could possibly have a valid reason for not dropping everything and responding to your text? You know, like work?
Haha....Yep, I even have a couple of friends who refuse to have cell phones......If you want to get in touch with them, you can call their land line and .....are you ready for this, OP?......leave a message on a recording machine....or you can go to their house......
I make sure I check my email, texts and voicemails once every day or so.....if it's seriously important they can call.
BUT - if you frequent the Relationship Forum, you would learn that not texting back momentarily is a red flag the size of China. Beats the good look, charm, intelligence and good money almost every single time.
People get anxiety attacks and engage in wildest speculations if someone doesn't reply in a timeframe of 4 hrs, max. Not to mention the zillions of threads asking to help decipher messages like: "He said he likes me - what does that mean?"
Please don't get me wrong. When I'm super busy at work I even forget to eat at times with my hyper focus. But majority of the times, if I see a message on my phone, It must be checked and replied to. I can't just look at a message and be like "Oh I'll just reply back later because I'm too self observed to give someone time of the day." If I am asked a question even in person. I feel the need to reply back. If I don't know the answer, I'll go searching for it so I can get the answer and reply them back with.
For example I cannot leave an email unchecked. It must be checked, trashed, archived or something. I can't have outstanding notifications laying around on my phone but mainly emails and texts. Honestly, I hate phone calls unless its business. I don't like friendly calls to chit chat, I prefer text
When I was single and dating, this way of thinking was always a red flag for me. I interacted with a handful of men over the years who would get upset if I didn't reply immediately. No thanks.
What is it that makes people think they deserve an immediate response?
Please don't get me wrong. When I'm super busy at work I even forget to eat at times with my hyper focus. But majority of the times, if I see a message on my phone, It must be checked and replied to. I can't just look at a message and be like "Oh I'll just reply back later because I'm too self observed to give someone time of the day." If I am asked a question even in person. I feel the need to reply back. If I don't know the answer, I'll go searching for it so I can get the answer and reply them back with.
For example I cannot leave an email unchecked. It must be checked, trashed, archived or something. I can't have outstanding notifications laying around on my phone but mainly emails and texts. Honestly, I hate phone calls unless its business. I don't like friendly calls to chit chat, I prefer text
It's not self-absorbed if you don't respond right away.
IMO, It's self-absorbed to expect others to stop what they're doing because your text came in. Why do you think you are more important than what they're doing and/or the people they're with?
It's not self-absorbed if you don't respond right away.
IMO, It's self-absorbed to expect others to stop what they're doing because your text came in. Why do you think you are more important than what they're doing and/or the people they're with?
Ok so how do you build and maintain a friendship if that is your behavior towards your friend? I thought the point was to be available for people you care about.
Ok so how do you build and maintain a friendship if that is your behavior towards your friend? I thought the point was to be available for people you care about.
How do I build and maintain a friendship if I ignore the friend I'm out with to get involved in a text conversation with someone else?
But majority of the times, if I see a message on my phone, It must be checked and replied to. I can't just look at a message and be like "Oh I'll just reply back later because I'm too self observed to give someone time of the day."
Honestly, I hate phone calls unless its business. I don't like friendly calls to chit chat, I prefer text
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Originally Posted by Katnan
It's not self-absorbed if you don't respond right away.
IMO, It's self-absorbed to expect others to stop what they're doing because your text came in. Why do you think you are more important than what they're doing and/or the people they're with?
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Originally Posted by Capitalprophets
Ok so how do you build and maintain a friendship if that is your behavior towards your friend? I thought the point was to be available for people you care about.
Whew! It's hard to even know where to start with this. A real friendship develops with real face-to-face interaction. There are all kinds of non-verbal cues that help each person get to know the other better. Next best would be to at least talk to them over the phone, where you can hear the inflections in their voice that help you understand what they are trying to say. LAST on the list of showing you care is texting.
If you are with someone in person but are constantly checking your phone and replying to texts, it tells the person you are with that they aren't nearly as important as your little phone. Personally, I limit my time with people like this as much as possible.
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