Less than 2 weeks before wedding and having thoughts of break up (cheat, couple)
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Postpone the wedding instead of pulling the ejection seat. Think about it for a while, then pull the lever if you can't reconcile it. The fact you guys waited almost 5 years kind of makes me think you dragged her along while you were making your decision.
Postpone the wedding instead of pulling the ejection seat. Think about it for a while, then pull the lever if you can't reconcile it. The fact you guys waited almost 5 years kind of makes me think you dragged her along while you were making your decision.
Postpone the wedding instead of pulling the ejection seat. Think about it for a while, then pull the lever if you can't reconcile it. The fact you guys waited almost 5 years kind of makes me think you dragged her along while you were making your decision.
i just read this whole thread and I must commend you on ur decisions to working it out when things get tough instead of completely turning your back and quitting... nowaways, ppl r so tempted to just quit, but ur making it work! congrats! if you stay positive, stay hopeful, and put in ur love to making it work, it will! i bet u guys will get to that place and have a wonderful life. u guys are a team, and will make great parents one day... im sure the both of u believe you will be great parents one day and that is someting to work towards, and enjoy one day. i think u had the classic example of getting 'cold feet' .. ppl argue over stupid things all the time - me and my fiance included! we argue over the stupidest things, but we are both maturing and realizing its pointless to argue, whatever and lets get over it! you have to reprogram your communication and the way you guys talk and treat each other... also, have more sex!!! it brings you guys closer together!! =)
i just read this whole thread and i must commend you on ur decisions to working it out when things get tough instead of completely turning your back and quitting... Nowaways, ppl r so tempted to just quit, but ur making it work! Congrats! If you stay positive, stay hopeful, and put in ur love to making it work, it will! I bet u guys will get to that place and have a wonderful life. U guys are a team, and will make great parents one day... Im sure the both of u believe you will be great parents one day and that is someting to work towards, and enjoy one day. I think u had the classic example of getting 'cold feet' .. Ppl argue over stupid things all the time - me and my fiance included! We argue over the stupidest things, but we are both maturing and realizing its pointless to argue, whatever and lets get over it! You have to reprogram your communication and the way you guys talk and treat each other... Also, have more sex!!! It brings you guys closer together!! =)
hey sharpie, im in the exact same situation as you, 2 weeks to go and having serious doubts about getting married. The things is i'm with this girl for years and i've tried leaving her before but she always emotionally blackmailed me and said that ive ruined her life etc and then i always ended up taking her back after feeling sorry for her, only to feel the exact same way a few weeks later.
One day she said to me that she wouldnt go to my brothers wedding without a ring on her finger (engagement ring).
At the time i had a lot on my mind, i was working away from home, stressed over financial problems, as well as organising a stag and wedding stuff for my brother . I ended up buying her the engagement ring (mostly against my will) and she said we will announce our engagement after my brothers wedding.
After my brothers wedding i just couldn't even bring mySelf To get engaged , i packed my bags and moved out and told her this wasn't for me,
I then moved in with a friend who had a spare room and stayed there for 4 months while my girlfriend lived in the house that we both bought together.
All this happened last year and then last xmas ( XMAS EVE) i had to Go to my old houSe to pick up clotheS to go home to my family for the XmaS.
SHES FROM THE SAME HOME TOWN AS ME BUT AS OF THEN SHE STILL HADNT TOLD ANYBODY WE SPLIT, SHE WAS CRYING IN THE HOUSE AND SAID SHE WOULDNT BE GOING HOME FOR XMAS AND I THOUGHT SHE WAS GOING TO HARM HERSELF. I TOLD HER SHE HAD TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND GO HOME AND SEE HER FAMILY, SHE THEN SAID HER LIFE WAS OVER, THAT AGAIN IVE RUINED HER LIFE ETC.
SHE WAS SUCH A MESS AND IT WAS XMAS EVE AND ME BEING THE SOFT PRICK I GAVE IN AND GAVE HER THE ENGAGEMENT RING AND BEFORE I KNOW IT EVERYTHING IS ORGANISED.
I HATE MYSELF FOR NOT STANDING MY GROUND, WHAT ARE MY OPTIONS IN THIS SITUATION?
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