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I am 30 years old and have no children. I don’t think I ever want children, or to own a home, because I would rather do without the responsibility of either. I like shopping sprees and being able to go on holidays whenever I please.
I have a very cushy job which includes massages every week and requires next to no really hard work.
I find that others often make me feel guilty for the life I lead. They make me feel lazy, irresponsible and immature because I have not chosen the same 2 kids, big house, mortgage, years in college to work a 12 hour a day job, that they have.
They tell me there “comes a time, when you have to settle down”.
Oh…?
I'd like to be introduced to whoever is making these rules for my life.
Is this just jealousy?
Last edited by *VaNiLlaGoRrilLa*; 11-09-2010 at 04:39 PM..
DO NOT LISTEN TO THESE CLOWNS! It's jealousy, pure and simple. They want to suck you into their sheeple-world so they can bleat with pleasure when you get sheared.
My friend is 30, also does not want kids - the abuse she puts up with from family and so-called friends is amazing. She makes good money doing what she enjoys and makes her own hours - can't beat that.
Be yourself, listen to your heart and ignore the rabble. Enjoy your life!
People often tie mortgage, marriage, kids with being settled down, grown up, responsible. It's the status quo, so those who live in it don't know how to react when someone like you comes along with your "no burden" lifestyle.
Bottom line: It's not hurting anyone so don't let them make you feel guilty about it.
At least your honest about it and not living a status quo lie because you think you supposed to.
If people don't want to marry and have kids whatever...but personally I'd rather slit my wrists than rent for my entire life. To each his own, and no I'm not jealous of you.
Nothing at all with choosing the easy life. I like to keep things simple in my life and try to have no stress. My wife and I have our jobs, hers is a little more stressful than mine.
No kids. Kids would definitely add stress to our marriage. And it would also add a huge reward. We still chose not to have kids. We do have a house, but it is very modest, and doesn't strap us, like so many homeowners.
Sounds great to me. In fact, I wish more people WOULDN'T have kids. It's not "selfish," it's actually very responsible not to have children if you know it isn't what you want. Props to you.
I have seen too many friends end up stressed and miserable, I don’t ever want to be one of those people. I try and do the things that make me happy, even if others don’t fully agree.
Each to their own of course!!! Some people are very happy, which is great.
I really do feel for the people doing it for all the wrong reasons though – pressure from friends and family, to keep their partner, to conform to society’s expectations etc. What a miserable existence, daydreaming and fantasising all day about the life they would have liked!
Unless you're flaunting it, then I could care less as long as you're happy
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It is so much more okay than having children because you're "supposed to," and resenting them.
