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It's not like she's just using him and leading him on...she actually does like him and needs more time to make sure she wants to be in a relationship with him. I would think that if this guy likes her as much as he says he does, the least he could do is be more compassionate and not so cold and tactless as he was.
So.... you don't want a serious relationship, but you want the benefits of an exclusive relationship?
I too probably would have told you you're on your own. And the next sh*t-test would be your last one.
I don't think asking for him to bring some medicine was out of line. Presumably he still cared enough to keep seeing her, even though she needed a little more time to be exclusive. He should have cared enough to at least help her out when she's sick. It's not like she asked him to come over and stay all night. His reaction says a lot.
He sounds like a loser. He still hangs out with his group of friends? What is he 14? I'm sick of real life relationships looking like TV sitcom relationships.
...so after you're done with school and out in the real world with a career, you're supposed to stop having friends
Have you ever been to a sports bar before? Or any bar for that matter?
I don't think asking for him to bring some medicine was out of line. Presumably he still cared enough to keep seeing her, even though she needed a little more time to be exclusive. He should have cared enough to at least help her out when she's sick. It's not like she asked him to come over and stay all night. His reaction says a lot.
I've been to a sports bar. It's really pathetic to see a bunch of adult men pontificating about sports as if it were current events or something that really mattered.
I've partied at bars before and it's really fun. But the mentality of the drunken crowd is pretty pathetic, too.
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...so after you're done with school and out in the real world with a career, you're supposed to stop having friends
Have you ever been to a sports bar before? Or any bar for that matter?
I don't think asking for him to bring some medicine was out of line. Presumably he still cared enough to keep seeing her, even though she needed a little more time to be exclusive. He should have cared enough to at least help her out when she's sick. It's not like she asked him to come over and stay all night. His reaction says a lot.
Play it how you like. But the way I see it either we're serious and I'll periodically drop my plans for you, or we're not and I won't.
Talk about NOT stepping up to the plate. He wants to date you but left you to walk in the cold when you were sick. Maybe he just didn't get the importance of what you needed, but this is really dicey behavior. Had he pulled through for you, he should have gotten major points. I wouldn't drop him over this, but I would explain to him that if he wants to date you then this is part of it. If he doesn't get it, drop him because you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who will leave you high and dry when you need that person.
The guy is a moron. That is obvious. He announced that he wanted a serious relationship and then whines about wanting to be with his herd of friends? That is pathetic.
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Talk about NOT stepping up to the plate. He wants to date you but left you to walk in the cold when you were sick. Maybe he just didn't get the importance of what you needed, but this is really dicey behavior. Had he pulled through for you, he should have gotten major points. I wouldn't drop him over this, but I would explain to him that if he wants to date you then this is part of it. If he doesn't get it, drop him because you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who will leave you high and dry when you need that person.
Especially after you just told him you "need more time" for things to become "serious."
Sorry, but if you've been seeing a guy in a less serious way, he decides to pose that he'd like to define the relationship and be exclusive, and then you rebuke him, it's somewhat selfish and unfair for you to then expect that he'll still drop plans that he'd already made because you don't feel like going outside because you feel icky. After all, you're not serious or exclusive. That means that you're bascially dating. I may offer to drop medicine off, but I probably wouldn't feel inclined to hang out over there that long, either.
May not be the cuddly way to look at it, but I'm just being honest here!
I agree with this. Personally, I wouldn't outright ask a guy to bring me medicine if I'd only been seeing him for a short while and had told him I wasn't sure where I wanted our relationship to go.
The comment about his friends - eh, maybe not the brightest thing to say. But I can certainly understand his being hesitant to come over, given the circumstances of the relationship (or lack thereof).
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