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I don't blame the OP for being upset. I would not become any further involved with this guy. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have gone and got him some medication rather then thinking of him going out in the cold.
I was married to a man like this. THE most important thing to him was being with his friends. He left me home sick on more then one occasion. I mean the kind of sick that I was too weak to get up and get my self something to eat or stagger to the bathroom. I was left wondering why on earth he ever got married in the first place.
If this guy is just like this, don't expect you can jump through some hoops and it will change. I jumped through a lot and my ex never changed.
Yeah I always thought that if someone didn't care about me at all in the beginning, he just wouldn't care about me later on either. He said I am selfish to ask him come over because it's not like we've been dating forever or we're married - i don't get it, i can only ask someone for help if i've been with that person for a long time?
Why are you checking up on him while he's with his friends? I don't answer my phone period when I'm with anyone.
I didn't call to check up on him. He said he got cheated on a lot in the past, and now whenever I tell him I'm going to meet friends/coworkers for lunch/dinner, he texts me and asks me if I'm finished. So sometimes instead of texting back and forward (and also to prove I'm not hiding anything), I would call him. But he never picked up his phone.
Sometimes it made me wonder if it's because he's doing "something", and that's why he is so afraid that I might be seeing other guys.
He must get sick real easily. It's nothing to pick something up at a drugstore and drop it off to you if you're sick. Five minutes of exposure, if that.
I didn't call to check up on him. He said he got cheated on a lot in the past, and now whenever I tell him I'm going to meet friends/coworkers for lunch/dinner, he texts me and asks me if I'm finished. So sometimes instead of texting back and forward (and also to prove I'm not hiding anything), I would call him. But he never picked up his phone.
Sometimes it made me wonder if it's because he's doing "something", and that's why he is so afraid that I might be seeing other guys.
I've been seeing this guy for just several weeks, everything has been fine and we see each other almost every other day. He said he wants a serious exclusive relationship and I told him I need more time (and I explained it's not like I want to date other guys, I just want to see if we're compatible before I make a decision).
So today when we were talking on the phone, I told him I'm sick and my body temp is high. He first said "oh I wish I could make you feel better." Then I asked "can you come over here for a little bit and bring me some medicine?" He responded:" but I don't want to get sick. and I told my friends I'm going to hang out with them." Then I had to walk in the cold myself to go to the drug store....
Is it unreasonable for me to be upset with his reaction? Now I'm more scared of entering into a relationship with him, because I don't expect my bf to run away when I need him
coulda just dropped the meds off at your doorstep.... no need to get sick in the process of helping you that way.
but then again, guys can be young/immature so maybe you should forgive him this time
i dont think it's a big deal to forgive him once. what is it with men/women who expect people to act a certain way? he just doesnt want to get sick. thats okay. he just wasnt creative enough to think of an alternate solution
getting sick is a serious issue for most people. he doesnt want to be in bed for days and he has a life too. i think it would be okay to look past it just this once. but if you are looking for reasons to dump him, then you're not ready for a relationship and should dump him for that reason first and foremost
but then again, guys can be young/immature so maybe you should forgive him this time
I didn't stop to think about how old the guy was...but I heard even men and women my age can run around and act like they are still in their 20's, getting drunk or high, running around with friends instead of spending time with an SO, sleeping with people indiscriminately (whether in a relationship or not!).
He might be young...or he might just need to grow up.
coulda just dropped the meds off at your doorstep.... no need to get sick in the process of helping you that way.
but then again, guys can be young/immature so maybe you should forgive him this time
well I would forgive him if this is an isolated incidence. I just hate the way he defended himself by saying I'm being too demanding by asking him to drop off some medicine.
I agree this guy she is interested in seems to be a loser.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
He must get sick real easily. It's nothing to pick something up at a drugstore and drop it off to you if you're sick. Five minutes of exposure, if that.
Exactly. A lot of people have the privilege of never growing up.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
I didn't stop to think about how old the guy was...but I heard even men and women my age can run around and act like they are still in their 20's, getting drunk or high, running around with friends instead of spending time with an SO, sleeping with people indiscriminately (whether in a relationship or not!).
He might be young...or he might just need to grow up.
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