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First of all... you method of solving things is exactly like my mothers. No fuss... practical... pratical... pratical In my opinion... this is a coward's way of dealing with things. Why would I want to go around a problem... when I can easily demolish it? When somebody is in my face... I don't need to go around him.... I can easily break his jaw. That is the quicked, simpletest, minimum effort, minimum thinking way to go about it.
Some guys pull out a gun at me and ask for my wallet???? I give them the wallet I give them everything... than I get in the car and driver over them. duh That's how we did it 10000 years ago... that's how we feel(in out instincts) to do it now. Most women don't understand this... but most guys feel the need to ascert dominance in some situations. If the dont... they feel crappy all day.
P.S. I almost never try to pick on somebody... or show dominance over him... out of the blue. But if he started it.... of... he's in for a big surprise. I never bow down... nor do I search for minimum damage solutions. If I would take any other aproach I would be depressed for a week, after the incident.
And that's why they are referred to as Neanderthals. No decent, civilized man I've been with felt bad all day. In fact the guy I was with in Atlanta told me he was happy it was me he was with and not some other woman who would have been helpless and we eventually ended up laughing about it because it was a dutch-mugging - they only got $10 from both of us. Thinking one step ahead has kept me out of more trouble than thinking with one's fist. Like I said, instead of taking care of one a-hole you end up taking care of two. How, exactly, is escalating things into a violent situation protecting the other person - you are only putting them in twice the danger.
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,,,A man who is a complete stranger to you both, a similar age, but slightly older. Is being very inappropriate with you. For example over the top sexual explicit comments to you, or touching your leg etc. Drink is a factor. You have to go somewhere and need to leave soon anyway.,, .
According to my wife this happens several times a day. My wife knows how to drive men away, she knows how to kill as well. I can leave her to defending off unwanted attention well enough.
If this is happening often too often the woman is putting off signals that welcome the advances.
Hypothetical situation. Obviously not one most people want, but it happens.
Say you are both out at a crowded bar, club, concert. For whatever reason your man is away from you for a short amount of time.
A man who is a complete stranger to you both, a similar age, but slightly older. Is being very inappropriate with you. For example over the top sexual explicit comments to you, or touching your leg etc. Drink is a factor. You have to go somewhere and need to leave soon anyway.
Your man comes back and he sees, or hears what is going on. Vote and comment (If you want).
I'd handle it myself if I could. A cold look of disdain and "Eff off" will do the trick most of the time. If he continued to bother me, I'd get security involved. If my husband was there, he would say something.
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First of all... you method of solving things is exactly like my mothers. No fuss... practical... pratical... pratical In my opinion... this is a coward's way of dealing with things.
No, this is a woman's way of dealing with things. Women rarely have the brute strength of men, so we have to know how to get out of situations using our brains, not our fists.
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Why would I want to go around a problem... when I can easily demolish it? When somebody is in my face... I don't need to go around him.... I can easily break his jaw. That is the quicked, simpletest, minimum effort, minimum thinking way to go about it.
Minimum thinking is right. Have fun in jail and paying for the guy's medical bills.
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Some guys pull out a gun at me and ask for my wallet???? I give them the wallet I give them everything... than I get in the car and driver over them. duh
Except if the guy doesn't leave by crossing in front of the car, like if he runs away in a perpendicular direction and you can't turn the car to chase him. Or if he goes where you can't follow. Oh yeah, and he has a gun.
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That's how we did it 10000 years ago... that's how we feel(in out instincts) to do it now. Most women don't understand this... but most guys feel the need to ascert dominance in some situations. If the dont... they feel crappy all day.
I know my husband likes to be a man and feel like a man. I am thankful he doesn't have foolish instincts that could get one of us shot. The guy with the gun LEFT ... why go chasing after him? We have insurance. I don't care about the car. I don't care about the money. I don't care if the guy takes my phone and my purse and my credit cards. It can all be replaced without even that much fuss. The only thing I would care about in that situation is getting my family out alive.
I'd handle the situation myself and prefer it that way. I hate to be put into positions where I appear to be chattle. I've travelled alone a lot and can handle things with a level head if it's out of hand I just give a nod to a bartender and security or workers politely ask him to leave. Bringing a third party into it often asks for an escalation of macho ego
I completely agree. I met my husband when I was 32 so spend many years handling myself in said situations and would deal with this guy before my husband had even returned.
I worked in Bars in London for many years when I was in my early 20's and have some great 'put down and get them away' lines..... and am really quite harsh with them.
A Fairly loud " touch my leg again and you get my drink on your head" should get the job done if he's not getting the massage.......
To be honest though it would not get to this stage unless the guy was quite drunk and then I would just speak to the bar guy/security....
I would expect that I would request that the guy leave me alone. I'm not some helpless little princess who is unable to say no to someone. I'd get up and move to another location, away from the guy.
If that still wasn't effective, I would expect my husband to just help escort me out when he got back.
If there was any threat of violence from DH, I wouldn't have married him. I love how calm and level headed he is in nearly all situations.
Hypothetical situation. Obviously not one most people want, but it happens.
Say you are both out at a crowded bar, club, concert. For whatever reason your man is away from you for a short amount of time.
A man who is a complete stranger to you both, a similar age, but slightly older. Is being very inappropriate with you. For example over the top sexual explicit comments to you, or touching your leg etc. Drink is a factor. You have to go somewhere and need to leave soon anyway.
Your man comes back and he sees, or hears what is going on. Vote and comment (If you want).
I would laugh and tell him he was an idiot, and if he didnt stop my man would step in, he is pretty big too. But I would handle it, and he would be kicked out wherever we were at. I'd see to that too.
Over the top sexual comments he gets the death stare. From me. Over the top sexual comments and he puts his hand on my leg? I throw my drink in his face.
Hubby comes over. Pats me on the rear. Says, "Good girl!" and buys me another drink.
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In my opinion... this is a coward's way of dealing with things. Why would I want to go around a problem... when I can easily demolish it? 
When somebody is in my face... I don't need to go around him.... I can easily break his jaw. That is the quicked, simpletest, minimum effort, minimum thinking way to go about it. 
Women rarely have the brute strength of men, so we have to know how to get out of situations using our brains, not our fists.
