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Yeah all well in theory, but how many men (or women if the roles were reversed), would tell him politely in this situation? Very few.
I would... I'd say something in the lines with
"excuse me, but my girlfriend doesn't seem to appreciate your advancements, you might want to try them on someone else"
If he stops there than thats it, if he goes on or makes a threat next step is;
"alright I said it politely, now back off."
At this point I'd ask the girl if she wanted to leave, if so I wouldn't say anything more but if she for some reason wouldn't and the guy goes on, I give one more verbal try, unless the guy is groping the girl, then I'd get physical. But physical would also be gradual, starting with hindering his movement to group. Though I'm sure not every guy feel they can be secure doing this, I'd expect a lot of guys to hit straight away when the guy didn't take the first hints.
But my point is I wouldn't begin with being the offensive part, I'd take it calm and size up the situation first, calculate my odds to win the fight, and to win it making the expected injuries look like selfdefence etc before doing anything rash.
On another note I don't see why the girl can't just give him a knee in the groin, as this is totally acceptable by most standards. If the guy then hit back I'd be free to do anything short of killing the guy, as my I'm then using violence in fear of another persons health/life, giving me way more legal leeway.(don't know how US laws work but here he'd be close to dead after striking a girl back)
I don't like women that think this way. In my opinion it's the job of the BF to chase the intruder away. The job of the girl friend is just to say NO(to the intruder). I like escalations in macho ego.... so I don't like it when women think like you
Macho ego rulz
Yep, "this way" referring to intelligent thought. Almost every woman responding has stated she would handle it herself, but you don't like that - oh no "independent, can stand on her own feet, doesn't NEED you" women for you. You want the helpless waif who gives you an excuse to look for (but not find) your self-esteem. Self-esteem is not at the end of your fists.
The worst thing about your kind of "handling" the situation is that you will get "your woman" hurt. Attaboy for thinking about the safety of the woman you're with.
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First of all... you method of solving things is exactly like my mothers. No fuss... practical... pratical... pratical In my opinion... this is a coward's way of dealing with things. Why would I want to go around a problem... when I can easily demolish it? When somebody is in my face... I don't need to go around him.... I can easily break his jaw. That is the quicked, simpletest, minimum effort, minimum thinking way to go about it.
Some guys pull out a gun at me and ask for my wallet???? I give them the wallet I give them everything... than I get in the car and driver over them. duh
That's how we did it 10000 years ago... that's how we feel(in out instincts) to do it now. Most women don't understand this... but most guys feel the need to ascert dominance in some situations. If the dont... they feel crappy all day.
P.S. I almost never try to pick on somebody... or show dominance over him... out of the blue. But if he started it.... of... he's in for a big surprise. I never bow down... nor do I search for minimum damage solutions. If I would take any other aproach I would be depressed for a week, after the incident.
"I pick things up and put them down."
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Originally Posted by ferretkona
If this is happening often too often the woman is putting off signals that welcome the advances.
BINGO
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
I'd handle it myself if I could. A cold look of disdain and "Eff off" will do the trick most of the time. If he continued to bother me, I'd get security involved. If my husband was there, he would say something.
No, this is a woman's way of dealing with things. Women rarely have the brute strength of men, so we have to know how to get out of situations using our brains, not our fists.
Minimum thinking is right. Have fun in jail and paying for the guy's medical bills.
The only thing I would care about in that situation is getting my family out alive.
Sorry, I'm going to disagree with this one statement: It's the intelligent way, not the woman's way. Not that we women aren't intelligent, but there are intelligent men around, too.
I didn't check anything on the poll, because there's no option for the woman handling it herself. My husband does not have to even give a dirty look because I generally handle things myself. He watched some man coming onto me and the guy suddenly ran away. Not one person around me was the wiser. I calmly, quietly, and in a very sexy voice whispered into the ear of Mr Obnoxious what I intended to do with his body parts. If he could have run with his legs crossed, I'm sure he would have. And I am pretty sure he was not UP for any play later that night, either. I told him I was looking forward to stretching the pair to reach his knees, then stapling to his thighs. Usually that's as far as I have to go. But that guy was really obnoxious so I told him that I was willing to practice piercing on him and just happened to have a prince albert in my purse. I do so love it tying the ends of a p.a. to a man's big toes and then tickling his feet. Funny, he didn't wait around for more "sweet talk". My husband thought it was hysterical. He's heard me do it since and usually has to walk away because he laughs so hard.
Sorry, I'm going to disagree with this one statement: It's the intelligent way, not the woman's way. Not that we women aren't intelligent, but there are intelligent men around, too.
Point taken, but just because a woman's way is intelligent, that doesn't men cannot be intelligent. Dark said that this approach is practical (agreed) and cowardly (disagreed), and I was responding to that. I see that a few women said they would be likely to get physically violent, so I could be wrong that women tend to think their way out of problems more than men do, simply out of necessity. It's not like I haven't physically defended myself, either.
One of the joys of being a big guy over 6'4" is when you walk up on a situation, most men say "Oh crap" and beat a hasty retreat.
Yup. And THAT is why many of us gals like tall men. Not that we don't like short ones too, but your post illustrates one of the reasons that tall is nice!
Yup. And THAT is why many of us gals like tall men. Not that we don't like short ones too, but your post illustrates one of the reasons that tall is nice!
Yes but us short ones are closer to the area where the sun don't shine. Pick on my wife and you will be requiring cosmetic surgery to replace it.
how it's handled depends on how we feel about it. if she is offended by his advances then normally my wife would handle it before i ever even knew. but if she is interested, then we roll with it and see how it plays out. even if the guy does not "get lucky" i know she will be wound up when we get home!
Hypothetical situation. Obviously not one most people want, but it happens.
Say you are both out at a crowded bar, club, concert. For whatever reason your man is away from you for a short amount of time.
A man who is a complete stranger to you both, a similar age, but slightly older. Is being very inappropriate with you. For example over the top sexual explicit comments to you, or touching your leg etc. Drink is a factor. You have to go somewhere and need to leave soon anyway.
Your man comes back and he sees, or hears what is going on. Vote and comment (If you want).
I'm pretty good at taking care of things like this myself. I don't need to wait for my boyfriend to come back, nor would I stand there and listen to something I found unpleasant.
I'd handle the situation myself and prefer it that way. I hate to be put into positions where I appear to be chattle. I've travelled alone a lot and can handle things with a level head if it's out of hand I just give a nod to a bartender and security or workers politely ask him to leave. Bringing a third party into it often asks for an escalation of macho ego
Exactly Thursday!
I can fight my own battles, I don't need a man to do that for me.
I would never expect my SO to jump in and play macho man, it's simply childish.
Point taken, but just because a woman's way is intelligent, that doesn't men cannot be intelligent. Dark said that this approach is practical (agreed) and cowardly (disagreed), and I was responding to that. I see that a few women said they would be likely to get physically violent, so I could be wrong that women tend to think their way out of problems more than men do, simply out of necessity. It's not like I haven't physically defended myself, either.
Congrats on the mod thingy - now I gotta watch what I say to you!! And yup, he did say those things and I agree, women tend to use brains not brawn. Funny thing is, I think most men (at least the ones I know) resort to violence last also. But I think men are more confident with their ability to physically defend themselves than women, so you're probably right that women DO think their way out of problems more than men.
I have also had to resort to violence - I was attacked from behind - and poked the boy/man in the eye - squishy. I didn't like it. He didn't like it much either, he screamed while I ran away.
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Yes but us short ones are closer to the area where the sun don't shine. Pick on my wife and you will be requiring cosmetic surgery to replace it.
The bobs have anything to do with bobbit? Works for me.
The bobs have anything to do with bobbit? Works for me.
Shhh, you'll blow my cover.
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In my opinion... this is a coward's way of dealing with things. Why would I want to go around a problem... when I can easily demolish it? 
When somebody is in my face... I don't need to go around him.... I can easily break his jaw. That is the quicked, simpletest, minimum effort, minimum thinking way to go about it. 
Women rarely have the brute strength of men, so we have to know how to get out of situations using our brains, not our fists.
And yup, he did say those things and I agree, women tend to use brains not brawn. Funny thing is, I think most men (at least the ones I know) resort to violence last also. But I think men are more confident with their ability to physically defend themselves than women, so you're probably right that women DO think their way out of problems more than men.
