You must never cry in front of a woman if you want her to respect you (definition, emotionally)

[SWFL_Native]

2 questions:

1) Why do all these dormant threads get bumped? I get it there is something of relevance or a continuance of a story but just a random reply?

2) How does one go about looking for these threads? Did the "bumper" just type in Cry in the search or are you going through some random posters old posts?

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by SWFL_Native

2 questions:

1) Why do all these dormant threads get bumped? I get it there is something of relevance or a continuance of a story but just a random reply?

2) How does one go about looking for these threads? Did the "bumper" just type in Cry in the search or are you going through some random posters old posts?

I think its rando google searches, and people see it, and then register to comment.

[rego00123]

1) For the majority of cases a google search brings them up for people.
2) The site itself has recommended threads on to bottom for users based on their history.
3) the sites own information materials encourages searching and posting in ongoing threads to avoid duplicate threads.

It seems to be more of a bugbear of the regular crowds than the site itself when it happens. Conversation is conversation, when it was started and when it ends really shouldn’t matter as long as it is relevant. Threads should auto lock if a timeframe is the only factor in their relevancy...at least IMO.

It would cut down on the “OMG ZOMBIE THREAD!” Posts, which are as off topic as you can get when an older thread gets bumped back to the front page.

[Sonic_Spork]

Originally Posted by SWFL_Native

2 questions:

1) Why do all these dormant threads get bumped? I get it there is something of relevance or a continuance of a story but just a random reply?

2) How does one go about looking for these threads? Did the "bumper" just type in Cry in the search or are you going through some random posters old posts?

I asked the same thing some time ago. Some folks might get annoyed with you for asking it, just so you know. They did at me.

I actually have less of an issue with "general talk about whatever" threads like this one, compared to some particular and very specific individual's personal problem from 10 years ago they wanted advice on...where people don't immediately realize how old the thread is and reply like that poster is still here with that same problem (well, they might be in some cases, but good odds they aren't.)

I'm told that these threads show up in recommended threads for people somewhere. Wherever that is, it's something I simply don't have a habit of checking. They aren't searching for it, the site is promoting the threads as possibly of interest to people. I'm not sure if they realize it's an old thread or not. Given it's often a newbie poster, maybe they don't look. Though I half-suspect that at least some of these bumps aren't real people, but rather some site-driven effort to keep the place looking active.

Because fact is, the main reason I've stayed on City Data rather than some of the friendlier forums I've been on before, is that it is very, very active. Keeping it active keeps people around. It would be to the benefit of those running the site (and getting whatever ad revenue they may get?) to keep it looking very active by whatever means necessary.

But that's just like...my opinion, man.

[mua_fifi]

I'd have to agree this is true.

Originally Posted by d-boy-80

How true is that statement. I realize most women hate it when a man cries unless they are really in love with him.

[homina12]

Originally Posted by SWFL_Native

2 questions:

1) Why do all these dormant threads get bumped? I get it there is something of relevance or a continuance of a story but just a random reply?

2) How does one go about looking for these threads? Did the "bumper" just type in Cry in the search or are you going through some random posters old posts?

Originally Posted by timberline742

I think its rando google searches, and people see it, and then register to comment.

I found this site 6 years ago doing a search on how dating and relationships might be affected by being a short man. At that time there were typically one or two short men threads running between the relationship and psychology forums, but the thread that landed in my search was 3 or 4 years old. I didn't bump the old thread because as soon as I perused the site I saw far more current ones on essentially the same topic.

[danielj72]

I would agree a lot of women would not respect a man who cries. Crying is a sign of unchecked emotion and even weakness. These are not traits people expect to see in men. I told my son at a young age that unless he has been severely wounded or maimed that crying is not acceptable.

[deepsix]

I suppose I'm something of an unusual guy because I cry in front of my girlfriend somewhat often (averaging once every 1-2 months roughly).

When I made a comment during one of those moments about feeling bad about crying in front of her, she responded with something to the effect of:
"Weak men can express anger. Strong men can express sadness."

[personone]

Originally Posted by SWFL_Native

2 questions:

1) Why do all these dormant threads get bumped? I get it there is something of relevance or a continuance of a story but just a random reply?

2) How does one go about looking for these threads? Did the "bumper" just type in Cry in the search or are you going through some random posters old posts?

The simple answer to both questions is that CD can be a very strange place

The other funny thing is when people respond seriously for pages and pages to trivial posts or made up stories, oblivious to the fact that they are being played for fools, lol.

[gazzaa2]

Crying is preferable to bottling everything up. There's reasons why male suicide rates are so high and this is part of it. It's not wrong to show emotion and crying is emotion.

However, I think men should mostly do it in private, except for exceptional circumstances.