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I've spent years alone. I mean, years on end. No problem. I'm not dependant on anyone to make me a "whole person". I don't worry what anyone thinks of me, or what they say about me. I've had some pretty interesting conversations with myself, and even arguments. It's possible that I may not have a "correct view" of things, but it seems to me that the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more complete person you are. And, the less you "need" someone else. Being alone isn't a problem.
I admire your self-confidence, it's nice to see a person who's comfortable and happy with themselves.
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It helps. Poor Hurri doesn't have any of the above yet. But he will!
Yep that's basically my dream. A house by the Chesapeake Bay (or Puget Sound or Pacific Ocean), a car to go driving on the weekends in, a dog to chill with, and booze.
Once he gets three out of four, he'll be eligible for associate membership in the sweet setup club.
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Yep that's basically my dream. A house by the Chesapeake Bay (or Puget Sound or Pacific Ocean), a car to go driving on the weekends in, a dog to chill with, and booze.
There we go! And you're not that far from 21!
Alcohol is necessary for a man so that he can have a good opinion of himself, undisturbed by the facts.
I've spent years alone. I mean, years on end. No problem. I'm not dependant on anyone to make me a "whole person". I don't worry what anyone thinks of me, or what they say about me. I've had some pretty interesting conversations with myself, and even arguments. It's possible that I may not have a "correct view" of things, but it seems to me that the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more complete person you are. And, the less you "need" someone else. Being alone isn't a problem.
Hi ... just passing by and saw this thread.
Yes.
There is a difference between loneliness and being alone.
Loneliness is a state of feeling without and missing "the other" or others.
It's a state of lacking.
Being alone is, to me, being with your Self and feeling connected to yourSelf and also feeling and experiencing the connection with the whole and, as opposed to feeling a lack, there's a feeling of fulfillment.
So it has to do with having your Self.
And it's from that state that truly healthy relationships can come into being.
I'm getting there (being happy alone) but it's taken years and a lot of work.
I think the main reason that people are so plugged in (to the media, to the the internet, constantly on the cell phone) is because they don't know how to and are afraid to be alone.
Yep that's basically my dream. A house by the Chesapeake Bay (or Puget Sound or Pacific Ocean), a car to go driving on the weekends in, a dog to chill with, and booze.
And, that one, alone, is capable of making you lose the rest of the dream. Even to the point that you can not attain the rest of the dream. It can cost you everything you've ever had.
And, that one, alone, is capable of making you lose the rest of the dream. Even to the point that you can not attain the rest of the dream. It can cost you everything you've ever had.
You're doing what I did toward the end of my marriage. I talked to myself. I was validating myself.
I knew it was bad, and it wasn't going to get better, because I gave it another year, and another year, then it was 6 years.
You're doing what I did toward the end of my marriage. I talked to myself. I was validating myself.
I knew it was bad, and it wasn't going to get better, because I gave it another year, and another year, then it was 6 years.
I felt like my pilot light was going out.
I don't know that I'm "validating myself". The vast majority of my conversations with myself are not anything to do with relationships. Mechanical and electrical interaction between various components for a new piece of equipment. Now, if you had said "burying myself in my work", I couldn't say anything.
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Poor Hurri doesn't have any of the above yet. But he will!
