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She's not going to be out and about spreading her legs. She wants 1 man. And she's hoping he'll be the one who does love her.
I think this thread shows that a lot of people are somewhat unhappy in their relationships and have tried to get Mir to stop wanting to be coupled, because they think it will be to her detriment once she finds somebody. While Mir realizes that having a man while she's still young, is more healthy than finding her long lost love when she reaches 60 and is too weak to even have sex. Either way, I don't have a solution for her, since both sides are probably right. Mir has an idealistic view of finding love that's forever, while others realize that love might not last forever, in such a way.
It has nothing to do with being happy or unhappy. Some happily married people had given her advice too....Detriment? I don't think anyone suggested that at all. What was implied is that she Cannot rely on someone else to provide happiness for her.
Happiness does begin with ones self... Just my opinion now.. but it seems most women are lead to believe they have to have a mate in their lives to be complete and some come on very desperate to men and make the man run the other way.
I enjoy my work, my friends, a good book, painting, drawing, my family, my cats.. etc... enjoy being with yourself... enjoy what nature and life has to offer you... not having a mate is not the end of the world... in fact it is great enjoying things I love to do and having "me" time... when you smile and are happy with your own self and life that someone will notice and want to share it.. for me... if not... no big deal
What was implied is that she Cannot rely on someone else to provide happiness for her.
That is probably an ideal state of mind. But the world is inter-connected. We don't live our lives in isolation, so to an extent some happiness does have to come from others. Would you feel the same if your son wasn't a part of your life? Your husband, your best friend? If you were by yourself all the time with only your friends for entertainment and pleasure and comfort. That would really get old quick. A mate does provide comfort when a person is sick, is there to help out in the hardest of times, is a stress reliever, and offers loyalty when your friends might turn their back. A mate is more valuable than her bunch of friends. This is my opinion, maybe you or her don't feel that way, and that is okay.
That is probably an ideal state of mind. But the world is inter-connected. We don't live our lives in isolation, so to an extent some happiness does have to come from others. Would you feel the same if your son wasn't a part of your life? Your husband, your best friend? If you were by yourself all the time with only your friends for entertainment and pleasure and comfort. That would really get old quick. A mate does provide comfort when a person is sick, is there to help out in the hardest of times, is a stress reliever, and offers loyalty when your friends might turn their back. A mate is more valuable than her bunch of friends. This is my opinion, maybe you or her don't feel that way, and that is okay.
Temptation, I'm not saying that she shouldn't want to be with someone. I'm not saying that her desires of finding a partner is somehow unnatural, selfish or wrong. It seems that you have taken some posts out of context. Obviously I agree with you that a mate provides all those wonderful things, how could I not, I HAVE been married for almost 10 years. However, you cannot rely on someone else to be happy and quite honestly I don't think Mir relies on someone else to be happy anyway.
I also believe that eventually she will find that special someone, in the MEAN TIME, there is still so much to life to explore and enjoy, and that is the ONLY WAY to cope with feelings of loneliness and I think Mir agrees with me here.
Temptation, I'm not saying that she shouldn't want to be with someone. I'm not saying that her desires of finding a partner is somehow unnatural, selfish or wrong. It seems that you have taken some posts out of context. Obviously I agree with you that a mate provides all those wonderful things, how could I not, I HAVE been married for almost 10 years. However, you cannot rely on someone else to be happy and quite honestly I don't think Mir relies on someone else to be happy anyway.
I also believe that eventually she will find that special someone, in the MEAN TIME, there is still so much to life to explore and enjoy, and that is the ONLY WAY to cope with feelings of loneliness and I think Mir agrees with me here.
So what you're saying is that Mir is a strong woman with a whole life ahead of her full of adventures and there are a dozen different roads that she can take, and you know she will be alright in the end. She doesn't need a man holding her back from all the things she can become.
So what you're saying is that Mir is a strong woman with a whole life ahead of her full of adventures and there are a dozen different roads that she can take, and you know she will be alright in the end. She doesn't need a man holding her back from all the things she can become.
Okay, got it.
You said it well girl!
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