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oh I understand the control thing..I've been in relationships before . I'm just not enjoying this "freedom". I've had it most of my life and its nothing that special anymore. Its great right after a relationship and you "hate" men, but not this long, lol. that little bit of "control" in a healthy relationship would not bother me and it never did.
You mistake a relationship with marriage as some people mistake a vacation with immigration.
You mistake a relationship with marriage as some people mistake a vacation with immigration.
And that doesn't even include KIDS!
I guess I'm just trying to shed the light and show her the positive of the situation. I understand her feelings, although I didn't have those experiences. I jumped from one relationship to another (just circumstantially) and didn't have that single time....but I still understand her fears of uncertainty. I would have probably felt similarly, who knows? However, I just want her to see all the beauty of her situation as well. The grass always seems greener on the other side.
I guess I'm just trying to shed the light and show her the positive of the situation. I understand her feelings, although I didn't have those experiences. I jumped from one relationship to another (just circumstantially) and didn't have that single time....but I still understand her fears of uncertainty. I would have probably felt similarly, who knows? However, I just want her to see all the beauty of her situation as well. The grass always seems greener on the other side.
Thank you MM, but what you're telling me has been told to me for years and I already saw the beauty of what you're saying..its not pretty anymore. when you're not wired to be alone, it gets old real fast. Not to mention its exhausting when you meet someone you're hopeful about, many times and poof, its a joke from god anyways.
Thank you MM, but what you're telling me has been told to me for years and I already saw the beauty of what you're saying..its not pretty anymore. when you're not wired to be alone, it gets old real fast. Not to mention its exhausting when you meet someone you're hopeful about, many times and poof, its a joke from god anyways.
And here I thought I was being original... J/K. Well, I understand...I guess not much I could add then...
Well...if it makes any sense, no matter how wonderful a man is, when you are in a relationship, there will be always be some kind of control, even if it's very mild, from both sides. It's nearly impossible to have a relationship when your partner gives you an absolute, complete and utter freedom to do absolutely anything you want. Your freedom is in your own hands now, until you find someone special, you should enjoy it. I guess that's what I'm trying to get across, perhaps unsuccessfully.
There is truth here. I was married young and while I don't regret it I never knew what it was like to decide my own course in every way. I'm not liking the word control here, there should not be control but there must always be compromise in a relationship for it to work. You cannot agree on all points all the time. Those compromises can be well worth it but they exist nevertheless. You are young Mir, you will not be young again but love will come to you. You seem nice enough, I believe you meet someone who will want to see and touch the beautiful things you have inside you. In the meantime your glass may be half empty or half full and you can choose which it be.
And here I thought I was being original... J/K. Well, I understand...I guess not much I could add then...
thank you for understanding how unnatural this feels for me lol. I guess I really just want people to understand how I feel. I really don't know what anyone could say to me, especially since I don't know anyone my age with this kind of difficulty, no matter what they look like or have/don't have to offer. the only friend I have with this kind of difficulty, isn't even trying..I think she likes being alone more than I do anyways.
There is truth here. I was married young and while I don't regret it I never knew what it was like to decide my own course in every way. I'm not liking the word control here, there should not be control but there must always be compromise in a relationship for it to work. You cannot agree on all points all the time. Those compromises can be well worth it but they exist nevertheless. You are young Mir, you will not be young again but love will come to you. You seem nice enough, I believe you meet someone who will want to see and touch the beautiful things you have inside you. In the meantime your glass may be half empty or half full and you can choose which it be.
Thank you. Just seems like what I have to offer isn't enough..or maybe I should just offer a lot less (Those women get the best men anyways!). Either way, I'm one of the most positive people you'll meet, but this issue just hurts like hell sometimes so yes my glass if half full. Even the most positive of people crack sometimes.
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. I'm just not enjoying this "freedom". I've had it most of my life and its nothing that special anymore. Its great right after a relationship and you "hate" men, but not this long, lol. that little bit of "control" in a healthy relationship would not bother me and it never did.
I do have experience with a step-monster, but that's different...
J/K. Well, I understand...I guess not much I could add then...
