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By making a thread about this your making her out to something important. In reality she really isn't important at all, she's not the only piece of ***** out there bro...
If the situation was reversed, people wouldn't be defending me. If I was the shy one, my personality trait wouldn't be tolerated.
Why? Because you are a man? That is totally untrue. I would have said the same thing..actually probably even moreso for a man because its women who have the unfortunate reputation of being 'stuck up'. Look, people have said she might have been shy, and you are heck bent on saying she was being stuck up and aloof.
However, I am shy too, and so I can understand how people can get the wrong impression. Have you ever looked at anyone, and thought they had a mean expression, but that is just the way they look..they cant help it? Things arent always as they see, which should be obvious to you know since you found out she actually had a crush on you.
Next time, dont give up so easily just because she 'mumbled' goodbye. You never know if you just caught someone on a bad day, etc.
I didn't miss out. The point of this thread is that being aloof does more harm than good and I listed an example. I may have gone out with her if she showed interest, but because she came across as aloof and stuck up, this was the end result. There's plenty of other girls that are just as good looking and don't act that way.
The title of your thread, and your op are at odds. Most of us don't know what the point of your thread is. Don't like whoever you don't want to like, that's fine. But this girl was clearly shy and not aloof. Aloof is doing jerk things like taking forever to return phone calls, and trying to look busy when you really aren't because you don't want to come off desperate.
Anyway, we don't even know for sure if the girl liked him. Just because he heard it through a grapevine doesn't mean that it's true.
OP, It's just a speculation thinking that the girl liked you and was acting aloof. We don't know if any of it is true, whether or not she really liked you and why she was acting this way towards you.
This happened to me at my last job. This one girl never spoke to me, didn't look at me, and pretty much ignored me. Everyone else was at least courteous enough to say hello and ask how I was doing.
When I saw one of the managers about a month later, she said the girl had a crush on me. I told her that she ignored me for 3 months and I assumed she was stuck up.
The moral, aloof doesn't work, especially if you're female. No one with an ounce of self-respect is going to approach someone that has ignored them for a significant period of time.
Having a crush on someone doesn't mean that person wanted to act on it...maybe she thought the work place was inapproiate.
She was shy, not aloof. That said, I agree with OP's premise because people are lazy and don't want to take the time to break into someone's shell whether they're shy, introverted, or aloof. They'd rather assume that person is stuck up, perhaps b/c they themselves are afraid.
Anyway, we don't even know for sure if the girl liked him. Just because he heard it through a grapevine doesn't mean that it's true.
OP, It's just a speculation thinking that the girl liked you and was acting aloof. We don't know if any of it is true, whether or not she really liked you and why she was acting this way towards you.
Why would the manager lie about something like that?
Why would the manager lie about something like that?
How would the manager even know about something like that? A crush on a coworker is not something you'd normally confide in to your manager.
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