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She's not aloof. Aloof is me making out with a guy and ignoring him for weeks after. That's aloof.
To the OP, there are men who are shy too. I've met my share of guys who befriend my friends, for example, and, yet won't even say Hi to me sometimes. The guy will just ignore me and talk to everybody else. I've learned my lesson. If a guy is ignoring me, or avoiding looking at me, while talking to me, it's because he is shy and usually he likes me. At first it can be off-putting and might make you feel like kicking them. But then when you remember that this is classic crush behavior, you start to notice them more, and usually your suspicions are right. Once you put them at ease, they are the most wonderful mates.
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Originally Posted by WakaFlocka
This happened to me at my last job. This one girl never spoke to me, didn't look at me, and pretty much ignored me. Everyone else was at least courteous enough to say hello and ask how I was doing.
When I saw one of the managers about a month later, she said the girl had a crush on me. I told her that she ignored me for 3 months and I assumed she was stuck up.
The moral, aloof doesn't work, especially if you're female. No one with an ounce of self-respect is going to approach someone that has ignored them for a significant period of time.
I don't know, I think think you've arrived at the wrong moral of the story.
You assumed she was stuck up and now you're assuming that it was something wrong with her.
Now you'll never know, so I think the moral is never assume - always confirm.
What I dont understand is the 'its her loss' angle. That is a term used to console someone/yourself when you are rejected or couldnt get the person you were trying to attract. So why would the term be used to describe a scenario where the person uttering these words isnt interested?...unless..
This happened to me at my last job. This one girl never spoke to me, didn't look at me, and pretty much ignored me. Everyone else was at least courteous enough to say hello and ask how I was doing.
When I saw one of the managers about a month later, she said the girl had a crush on me. I told her that she ignored me for 3 months and I assumed she was stuck up.
The moral, aloof doesn't work, especially if you're female. No one with an ounce of self-respect is going to approach someone that has ignored them for a significant period of time.
Not only that; if I am in your position I am going to wish tragedy on her to pay her back for insulting me by making me feel worthless.
I have experienced that. For me, I'm an open book and will tell you things many men would never share. Someone played me with the mysterious thing for 6 months. Ended up finding a person with no depth undernieth.
I think it's another one of those screwed up dating game playing things that only happens in America. It's kind of complicated. They say a lot of women even attractive women have low self esteem so this can hurt their flirting skills. All in all I would agree "appearing" like you don't want to talk to a guy is not a good way to get a guy to talk to you. What happens is the only guys that will try to talk to you are the overly aggressive ones and that is not good. Why? Because that's the guy that is asking out 10 different women a day and is not interested in only one woman. Also I think a lot of women will label a guy a player just due to his looks and his single status.
very true! These girls, who want the guy to hit on them, end up with jerks who play them. Then complain later on. How about you reach out to a nice shy guy once in a while if you notice he likes you but is not rompin over tryin to holla at chu?
very true! These girls, who want the guy to hit on them, end up with jerks who play them. Then complain later on. How about you reach out to a nice shy guy once in a while if you notice he likes you but is not rompin over tryin to holla at chu?
In the end, they're punished for their passiveness.
oh god. this girl is SO me! when i dont like a guy i'm all chatty and flirty and friendly with him. when i do like a guy i just....freeze up and keep my distance and avoid him except for secret glances and lovelorn sighs.
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