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50 years old is not a good age to wait. Besides being financially secure, physically you will not look as great as you were in your 20s and 30s.
A 50-year-old man looks mighty good to a 50-year-old woman.
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Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw
Yeah, just what I want. A spouse that has lived over 70% of her life, and probably the best years prior to meeting me and getting married.
I don't think you have anything to worry about, with that attitude.
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Originally Posted by Skydive Outlaw
and no, I'm not looking forward to one day reaching 50.
I can't imagine being able to do even half of what I include in my life
now at that point, and that includes women.
You might get lucky and get hit by a bus at age 49 years 364 days.
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For those of you that want to hit 50 - have fun at the golf course, reading AARP and gardening.
Hell, I don't have time for that stuff. I'm too busy working and spending time with friends and family.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
You can't understand the value of marriage right now simply because you have not fallen in love and had "the one" fall madly in love with you too.
"The right one" is a game-changer. All those old fantasies about the perfect relationship no longer matter; all that matters is the here and now, and the future.
But the reality you fail to understand is this - once you meet "the one" all your justifications above go right out the window, lol.
You can't understand the value of marriage right now simply because you have not fallen in love and had "the one" fall madly in love with you too.
I wish I can rep. you. I watched this video on youtube, and the guy was saying that "once you fall in love, you don't care about people's opinion and all of your justification go right out the window" (something like that). It is true.
I also think that he and I don't understand marriage because we never lived it compared to those who have. How our parents model their relationship will impact us, and by reading his post, it has big time. To say that "marriage is just a piece of paper"? I don't agree with it. I'm not here to insult him or anybody because I don't know marriage myself, but I look at my parents (mostly my mom because she looked after all her nine kids after dad passed away), and it seems like it is more than just being loyal and faithful to each other. Can you be in a cohabited relationship and be loyal and faithful to each other? I'm sure, but there is something about a "covenant" relationship that is different from a "piece of paper" relationship. I think it's really the attitude here.
I might be the youngest in this thread (for now) and maybe my philosophy might change after marriage.
As long as you age well, shouldn't be a problem. If you're like that skydiver dude, maybe you should close the deal early because appearntly for him the clock will strike midnight by 50 and he'll pumpkin into some old senile gardener. If you stay sharp, your best years are always ahead of you and you won't be some 50 year old talking about when he was 20.
Another BLEEPIN' thread from a man who doth protest too much. Repub, when are you going to admit that you yearn for the love of a good woman?
Whatever.
Hate to break it to you--and the other He-Man Woman Haters of City-Data--but there are plenty of women out there like me for whom marriage was a giant money suck. You fellas seem to think it's all women bleeding men dry. You should meet my wasband. He was a vortex for my cash flow.
I really should have listened to my mother, yes, MOTHER, a female, who said, "Don't get married unless you want kids."
You see, you He-Men rant on and on about how bad marriage is for men because you automatically assume the worst of women, and therefore assume that with marriage comes divorce, which you then tie with your assumption that divorce somehow benefits women and destroys men, despite the mountains of evidence that scream otherwise, never mind the N of 1 who is talking to you right now.
But there are plenty of reasons for women not to get married, as well, the main one being the inequality of home stewardship. In couples where both partners work, women still get stuck with the lion's share of maintaining the home and raising the children. Sorry, doing the dishes once in a while and mowing the lawn doesn't count as "half," gentlemen. There's a reason married men enjoy better health and live longer than married women. It seems so many men think they've acquired a maid, a cook, and a nanny along with a wife.
Keep shouting about how much you don't want to get married, though, Repub. Maybe one day you'll convince yourself.
Get married when you are 50. So, for example if you are a guy and she is at that time 48, then you get what is left of her after she spent the previous 30 years having sex with other guys. A real prize, and she might already have reached menopause. Wow, great idea.
If from the point of marriage, you each spent a decade together before one of you dies, you will have all of those amazing memories of being old and spending them with someone you married. . . . at the age of 50.
Yeah, just what I want. A spouse that has lived over 70% of her life, and probably the best years prior to meeting me and getting married.
Oh, what a vile post. There is so much wrong with this, I don't know where to start.
1. "What is left of her?" Really? I'll be 45 next week. There's plenty "left of me."
2. I'm also post-menopausal. What's your point? Unless you want kids, it shouldn't matter. It certainly doesn't for me and my SO.
3. If you want to talk about the physical, unless a man has kept himself in prime condition his whole life, chances are more than fair to middlin' that he's going to need some Viagra sooner rather than later, once he hits 50. Just what every young woman in her child-bearing years wants to deal with, along with giving up her youth and the prime of her life to take care of a heart patient in the making. Not.
Keep deluding yourself. The smarter men in the group know there is more to love, life, and partnership than money and reproductive status.
But there are plenty of reasons for women not to get married, as well, the main one being the inequality of home stewardship. In couples where both partners work, women still get stuck with the lion's share of maintaining the home and raising the children. Sorry, doing the dishes once in a while and mowing the lawn doesn't count as "half," gentlemen. There's a reason married men enjoy better health and live longer than married women. It seems so many men think they've acquired a maid, a cook, and a nanny along with a wife.
What's interesting is that married men, by and large, tend to have better health, longevity, and life. While it's the opposite for married women, by and large, where single women fair better. Go figure.
Another BLEEPIN' thread from a man who doth protest too much. Repub, when are you going to admit that you yearn for the love of a good woman?
Whatever.
Hate to break it to you--and the other He-Man Woman Haters of City-Data--but there are plenty of women out there like me for whom marriage was a giant money suck. You fellas seem to think it's all women bleeding men dry. You should meet my wasband. He was a vortex for my cash flow.
I really should have listened to my mother, yes, MOTHER, a female, who said, "Don't get married unless you want kids."
You see, you He-Men rant on and on about how bad marriage is for men because you automatically assume the worst of women, and therefore assume that with marriage comes divorce, which you then tie with your assumption that divorce somehow benefits women and destroys men, despite the mountains of evidence that scream otherwise, never mind the N of 1 who is talking to you right now.
But there are plenty of reasons for women not to get married, as well, the main one being the inequality of home stewardship. In couples where both partners work, women still get stuck with the lion's share of maintaining the home and raising the children. Sorry, doing the dishes once in a while and mowing the lawn doesn't count as "half," gentlemen. There's a reason married men enjoy better health and live longer than married women. It seems so many men think they've acquired a maid, a cook, and a nanny along with a wife.
Keep shouting about how much you don't want to get married, though, Repub. Maybe one day you'll convince yourself.
What's interesting is that married men, by and large, tend to have better health, longevity, and life. While it's the opposite for married women, by and large, where single women fair better. Go figure.
I can hazard a guess why this is: Many married women are physically overworked and emotionally overloaded with all the caregiving because ol' hubby over there comes home from work and thinks his day is done. And don't forget the meat and potatoes! Me man! Must have big meal!
Single women enjoy a lot of down time to themselves; don't have someone whining about "what's for dinner?" and can enjoy a bowl of soup if they like; and get a lot more sleep.
I can hazard a guess why this is: Many married women are physically overworked and emotionally overloaded with all the caregiving because ol' hubby over there comes home from work and thinks his day is done. And don't forget the meat and potatoes! Me man! Must have big meal!
Single women enjoy a lot of down time to themselves; don't have someone whining about "what's for dinner?" and can enjoy a bowl of soup if they like; and get a lot more sleep.
Yea, it's true. A lot of women not only work F/T jobs, take on the primary responsibility of household chores, etc, but they also have to bear the children and largely take care of the children as well as their husbands. I couldn't do it.
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