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So - because I'm happily married - I must be an ugly woman married to a poor guy? LOL!!!
No, you said, you married your man for LOVE and that's all he wanted in return.
My point was that if you truly did marry your man for love, you were not really all that attractve enough to capture a higher status man. You basically got the best man that you could attract which is what most women do being that women practice hypergamy.
The fact that you're now beating around the bush in regards to his income tells me that I'm somewhat right and that you're honest to some degree because you did not lie and just say he was a lawyer or something.
Question for Cali - How much would a man have to make to be considered a catch? How much would a woman have to make before she would be considered equal to her man's standing? Must it be even or should the woman have to make more?
No, you said, you married your man for LOVE and that's all he wanted in return.
My point was that if you truly did marry your man for love, you were not really all that attractve enough to capture a higher status man. You basically got the best man that you could attract which is what most women do being that women practice hypergamy.
The fact that you're now beating around the bush in regards to his income tells me that I'm somewhat right and that you're honest to some degree because you did not lie and just say he was a lawyer or something.
My husband and I fell in love with each other - that is what I meant by we married for love. I don't care about status. I love him for who he is. Why on earth would you expect me to tell you his income? I'm not beating around the bush - I think that has no relevance and isn't something I discuss with anyone. We love each other. That's why we got married.
If you want to believe that I'm ugly and he's poor - you are welcome to. If it makes you feel better - then have at it.
My point was that if you truly did marry your man for love, you were not really all that attractve enough to capture a higher status man. You basically got the best man that you could attract which is what most women do being that women practice hypergamy.
What an utterly stupid, inane, ridiculous assumption indicative of a warped value-system that places emphasis on money and material goods. Maybe you value money and material goods over all, and therefore consider that the hallmark of "status," but some of us have higher aspirations.
Put it to you this way: I could have settled for looks, money, success, and a life where I wouldn't have to lift a finger. Instead, I reached higher, and went for love.
No, you said, you married your man for LOVE and that's all he wanted in return.
My point was that if you truly did marry your man for love, you were not really all that attractve enough to capture a higher status man. You basically got the best man that you could attract which is what most women do being that women practice hypergamy.
The fact that you're now beating around the bush in regards to his income tells me that I'm somewhat right and that you're honest to some degree because you did not lie and just say he was a lawyer or something.
How much does a man have to make to be a catch? How much does a woman have to make to be a catch?
What does money have to do with it? I mean what if a rich man or woman can't find someone they like in their financial bracket? What then? Do they remain alone? What if the couple married poor together and one got a financial advantage later in life?
My point was that if you truly did marry your man for love, you were not really all that attractve enough to capture a higher status man. You basically got the best man that you could attract which is what most women do being that women practice hypergamy.
The fact that you're now beating around the bush in regards to his income tells me that I'm somewhat right and that you're honest to some degree because you did not lie and just say he was a lawyer or something.
Cali, come on. You speak as if American women are in the same situation as the poor women noted in the OP. There is little reason for all this marrying up in the US. We are the richest nation in the world. The vast majority of us live like royalty compared to the rest of the world. The only real reason to marry up in the US, imo, is just crazy greed. Most folk aren't crazy greedy. We want meaning in our lives, good family, friends, love, and security. We're privileged enough to seek those things out, unlike so many others.
Any how, you know what I look like and you know I'm the main bread winner in my family. It's far more involved than a few extra dollars.
How much does a man have to make to be a catch? How much does a woman have to make to be a catch?
What does money have to do with it? I mean what if a rich man or woman can't find someone they like in their financial bracket? What then? Do they remain alone? What if the couple married poor together and one got a financial advantage later in life?
Wait, let me guess: A "catch" is only someone who makes more money than you do. Going with anyone else is "settling."
Ever notice how it's the people who can't string enough dates together to form a relationship who spew the most presumptuous b.s. as though they were authorities on things they have absolutely no experience with?
Question for Cali - How much would a man have to make to be considered a catch?
Not that I'm avoiding your question but the problem is not that men don't make enough money in this country, but the fact that Western women are never satisfied with what American men make. 30k, 100k, 300k, 50 million, hell, it does not matter because women are always looking for the better deal which is backed up by the divorce statistics that state that you girls initiate divorce more so then men.
How much would a woman have to make before she would be considered equal to her man's standing? Must it be even or should the woman have to make more?
Men don't view women in this cold calculating way. Men don't go around like women looking for their "equals" or women of high status.
As a man I want to be in the company of a healthy, attractive, young woman who has a kind heart and is sweet. That's it. Simple.
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