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It would depend on the parenting style. If I agreed with the parenting style, e.g., that the child is receiving proper guidance, boundary setting, etc., then yes. If it was someone who didn't know how to raise a child, e.g., the child was spoiled, ill mannered, or not nurtured, than no. So, it would really be more about, what kind of parent you are, than the fact that you have a child.
Although my preference is for men without children, I wouldn't rule out a guy who has adult children who are outside of the home and are busy with their own lives.
However if I were your age, I wouldn't even consider a relationship with a single parent. When I was younger, it was kind of a drag to hang out with my friends who had children. I can't imagine what it would be like if I were dating a single dad.
Probably not. I'm sure there are wonderful men who have kids that I'm excluding from my dating pool, but I want all of that person's time and attention. I don't want to share. Plus there are usually problems that come with that person having to deal with the ex...and the main reason is I want my own kids. If a guy already has 2 or 3 he's probably done or I'll have to deal with this huge extended family. I think people with kids would be happier dating other people with kids.
your correct, but...there is a problem...things went well, very well for my son until my son's father married the person he married. My son's step father ( my husband) went thru hell and back because of her...he loved my son very much and was extremely good to him...she was not only a gold digger, but hated my son who was only 7 years old at the time, and she used to beat him and say the ugliest things to him, like, your father is sick because of you... (he had diabetis)...she'd slap him across the face and so much more...so beware...it can be a very good experience, or a very bad one, depending on all involved. The children themselves are a joy, but they're parents can make life miserable not only for the children, but for the step parents as well....she was and still is, extremely jealous and very controlling. She effected so many lives in a negative way...so, I'm just warning you, what can happen...maybe the child's father has disappeared now, but what if he comes back into the child's life later, with a new wife, who is controlling and is against everything you do for the child...she will talk him into anything, b/c he doesn't want to deal with it, will agree with her....and fight it her way...No, children are not baggage, but they're step parents can be.
Well that was just poor judgement by his father. I love my stepdad as if he were my real father. He's a damn good guy.
I think if I were in the same situation of dating a woman who has a child, I would be the same. I'm responsible, know how to relate to children and get along with them as well.
Not that I'm out looking for a woman with kids. Of course, I'd rather her not, but I'm not going to let the fact that she have kids influence my opinion on if she were datable or not. I'll allow her personality to influence that.
OP, I'm assuming you're about the same age as the girl, so I wouldn't recommend it. Why bother when you're still young enough AND unencumbered to be choosy.
As for myself, no, I wouldn't date someone with a child (minor still living at home). But I'm at the age where the kids should be grown up and on their own. So I would consider it, providing, my date is not contributing to their daily financial needs. No way.
If he didn't have everything else in order, then no. But assuming he did, I wouldn't automatically rule him out. But I would be very apprehensive b/c I don't want kids and don't want to raise someone else's kids. Also a man with a small child isn't the problem -- usually the mother is. I beleive a lot of women have a hard time beveling another woman could only want the best for her child as well (which is how I would be). So I seen a lot of them get caught up with drama and start problems with the new woman, interfere in the relationship even if she hasn't done anything. I'm not interested in that type of exchange whatsoever.
If I was a guy in my 20's, I would never date a woman with a child. Ever. No exceptions.
Now, if I was 40 years old and the woman had a grown kid, that's another matter entirely. But a small child or teen? Hell no! I love this line, "Children are misery makers." LOL!
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(he had diabetis)...she'd slap him across the face and so much more...so beware...it can be a very good experience, or a very bad one, depending on all involved. The children themselves are a joy, but they're parents can make life miserable not only for the children, but for the step parents as well....she was and still is, extremely jealous and very controlling. She effected so many lives in a negative way...so, I'm just warning you, what can happen...maybe the child's father has disappeared now, but what if he comes back into the child's life later, with a new wife, who is controlling and is against everything you do for the child...she will talk him into anything, b/c he doesn't want to deal with it, will agree with her....and fight it her way...No, children are not baggage, but they're step parents can be.
I'm not interested in that type of exchange whatsoever.
