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I thought it would be interesting to ask, would you date someone you were interested in even if they have a child? What would you do? Would you treat them any differently?
I'd prefer a guy without children since I don't have any, but I'd give him a chance if I was really interested.
Now I'm a bit older and have lived a bit, if it was the right woman, then yes.
But the reasons I've chosen not to have children would be the same reasons I'd be reluctant to take on a stepchild.
When I was 20, it would have been an almost unequivocal "no".
Again, it would depend on the woman, but I did have the chance to date single mums, and chose not to. Perhaps that was more of a reflection on the mother herself.
Many guys feel differently tho, and although having a child will probably dramatically cut your odds, it's not an automatic disqualification
I've tried it, won't do it again. It's not for me. The cancelling plans at the last minute was understandable because of her child. The kid absolutely has to come first. It also reminded me why I never wants kids of my own. You don't get to spend as much time with them. Plans are harder to make and seem to fall through often. Then there's the future. All the single mothers I've met want to eventually plop down in the suburbs and live that cookie cutter life that I have no interest in. There are other issues and dynamics as well, but these above are enough to make me steer clear of dating a parent in the future.
Just a question, I recently talked to an old crush of mine are Facebook, I don't have any feelings for her, but she is 20 years old and has a child. Her boyfriend hasn't been heard from since they had an argument. I thought it would be interesting to ask, would you date someone you were interested in even if they have a child? What would you do? Would you treat them any differently?
Of course I would. I'm a parent, and it never kept me from meeting plenty of great guys.
When I was 20, I would not have dated a guy with children. The older I got, I learned that if I'm interested, I explore the situation. And I'm glad I did date a man with children...about to be married and happy as can be.
If I liked the person enough, of course I would. I don't know why anyone would give a woman the impression that if she is single and has a child, she is doomed to be single the rest of her life.
Children aren't baggage. They're little people.
your correct, but...there is a problem...things went well, very well for my son until my son's father married the person he married. My son's step father ( my husband) went thru hell and back because of her...he loved my son very much and was extremely good to him...she was not only a gold digger, but hated my son who was only 7 years old at the time, and she used to beat him and say the ugliest things to him, like, your father is sick because of you... (he had diabetis)...she'd slap him across the face and so much more...so beware...it can be a very good experience, or a very bad one, depending on all involved. The children themselves are a joy, but they're parents can make life miserable not only for the children, but for the step parents as well....she was and still is, extremely jealous and very controlling. She effected so many lives in a negative way...so, I'm just warning you, what can happen...maybe the child's father has disappeared now, but what if he comes back into the child's life later, with a new wife, who is controlling and is against everything you do for the child...she will talk him into anything, b/c he doesn't want to deal with it, will agree with her....and fight it her way...No, children are not baggage, but they're step parents can be.
Of course I would. I'm a parent, and it never kept me from meeting plenty of great guys.
Only that you didn't even bother dating when your child was young...
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(he had diabetis)...she'd slap him across the face and so much more...so beware...it can be a very good experience, or a very bad one, depending on all involved. The children themselves are a joy, but they're parents can make life miserable not only for the children, but for the step parents as well....she was and still is, extremely jealous and very controlling. She effected so many lives in a negative way...so, I'm just warning you, what can happen...maybe the child's father has disappeared now, but what if he comes back into the child's life later, with a new wife, who is controlling and is against everything you do for the child...she will talk him into anything, b/c he doesn't want to deal with it, will agree with her....and fight it her way...No, children are not baggage, but they're step parents can be.
