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Hmm...that's not the mental image I'm getting at all, because the OP said she has only brought this up once.
But yes, I know what you're talking about in certain cases. And I can imagine the OP becoming something like what you describe above, simply out of desperation over time. That's another reason I'm just not feelin' this one.
No, the mental image I'm thinking of is a girl I dated. Despite all her badgering, I never had the heart to say, "I'm feeling like leaving on the side of the Interstate if you ask me that one more time."
Maybe. The OP did specify verbal affection, v. physical. She made that clear.
I didn't mean physical affection, either. I just don't like forced "talks" about "feelings," "where things are going," "where they're returning from ," "where do you see yourself in 5 years ," etc.
I didn't mean physical affection, either. I just don't like forced "talks" about "feelings," "where things are going," "where they're returning from ," "where do you see yourself in 5 years ," etc.
Right. And if you didn't mind such things once in a while, they wouldn't be forced. The OP doesn't mind such things once in a while; in fact, she loves them. There are definitely men who don't mind such things once in a while, either.
I dont see why everyone is so negative here. No one is perfect, right? We just have to find someone with who we get along and we accept his/her defaults. I dont think its right to just end it so easily because theres a little "problem". He is attached to me and so I am to him, and im sure that we can work this out somehow. When we are together, he gives me so much love physically that i cant ask for more.
I dont see why everyone is so negative here. No one is perfect, right? We just have to find someone with who we get along and we accept his/her defaults. I dont think its right to just end it so easily because theres a little "problem". He is attached to me and so I am to him, and im sure that we can work this out somehow. When we are together, he gives me so much love physically that i cant ask for more.
OP, you're the one who is/was concerned enough about this issue to post about it on a relationships board. That has given us (rightly so, I'd say) the opinion that this particular issue is more important to you than just "a little problem."
If that's all it is, accept that he'll never change and don't feel bad when he doesn't bring up the subject once in a while, as you said before you'd like. Just let it go and don't expect it, and the two of you should be fine since everything else is fine and this isn't much of a big deal to you.
So the question is, what to do? Do I have to ask him if he already sees me as his gf or not yet?
And am I always the one who will have to initiate a conversation about sentimental stuff?
Yes
Maybe. From what I have read elsewhere in my lifetime, men are perfectly capable of saying " I love you" when they do love a woman. Anything else is just a cop-out. Saying "ditto", "uh-huh", "I really like you", "you look good", "you would be an excellent mother to my children", "you know how I feel", or any other word or sentence that is not a straight up " I love you", means he doesn't love you.
Maybe. From what I have read elsewhere in my lifetime, men are perfectly capable of saying " I love you" when they do love a woman. Anything else is just a cop-out. Saying "ditto", "uh-huh", "I really like you", "you look good", "you would be an excellent mother to my children", "you know how I feel", or any other word or sentence that is not a straight up " I love you", means he doesn't love you.
I agree with you, but I get the feeling that's not what we're talking about here... I might be wrong, though.
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The OP did specify verbal affection, v. physical. She made that clear.
," "where do you see yourself in 5 years 
