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If someone I fell in love with laid this type of news on me a) he better have told me before we did the deed or I would drop him no matter how much I loved him. And b) I would still consider my well being first. I have a family of my own. Just like I have a responsibility to myself and those who love me to not to risk my health and life doing drugs, eating McDonald's every day or having unsafe sex, taking that risk with someone I may or may not be committed to eventually is no different.
It's probably my age and my long overdue, heightened love for myself talking but I stand by it. When I was younger, I might have considered it......just like I didn't care about income, job stability or if we lived under a bridge "as long as we had each other". I was willing to sacrifice my quality of life for the man I loved. Not these days.
I'm not sure. Crap happens. Having an STD can happen to anyone...one dishonest partner or one night of poor judgment and BOOM. If I really really clicked with someone and they were honest and up front about it, I think I may give them a chance though I would want to be really sure I loved that person or that person had marriage potential before I took any chances of exposing myself. My ex husband cheated on me...what if he had given me something? He didn't, but he could have and it wouldn't have been my fault or because I was irresponsible. Love makes people overlook an awful lot of less than ideal situations and qualities.
Yes, as long at my partner disclosed his illness from early on in the relationship. An STD is not a character flaw.
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Of course it isn't. However it is a condition that could really affect the marriage in a host of different ways. A prudent person would at least give the matter thought.
You never know, never say "never"......I get it. It's a general idea that applies, but not to every area of life for everyone. Love does not conquer all.
I'm not sure. Crap happens. Having an STD can happen to anyone...one dishonest partner or one night of poor judgment and BOOM. If I really really clicked with someone and they were honest and up front about it, I think I may give them a chance though I would want to be really sure I loved that person or that person had marriage potential before I took any chances of exposing myself. My ex husband cheated on me...what if he had given me something? He didn't, but he could have and it wouldn't have been my fault or because I was irresponsible. Love makes people overlook an awful lot of less than ideal situations and qualities.
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Of course it isn't. However it is a condition that could really affect the marriage in a host of different ways. A prudent person would at least give the matter thought.
True, it is a serious issue to consider. However, the presence of an STD is not, in and of itself, a deal breaker for me.
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Someone said it above, but an STI like HIV is life altering for you and your partner. There will ALWAYS be a risk of you contracting that illness from them and some might shake their heads of shrug their shoulders, but these drugs are expensive (1.), Even taking these drugs does not GUARANTEE a healthy life and if you're not taking care of yourself and keeping up your med routine you further increase the risk. How many of you sometimes forget to take a multi-vitamin or a prescription? These are life long drugs that you don't want to miss a dose on because you run the risk of increasing your chances of developing a a drug resistant strain. There's a lot of factors and I'm glad so many people are willing to reduce the stigma, but it is serious, it is life altering, and it's something definitely worth considering, at least until we have more information on how to CURE it as opposed to just reduce the viral load.
Someone said it above, but an STI like HIV is life altering for you and your partner. There will ALWAYS be a risk of you contracting that illness from them and some might shake their heads of shrug their shoulders, but these drugs are expensive (1.), Even taking these drugs does not GUARANTEE a healthy life and if you're not taking care of yourself and keeping up your med routine you further increase the risk. How many of you sometimes forget to take a multi-vitamin or a prescription? These are life long drugs that you don't want to miss a dose on because you run the risk of increasing your chances of developing a a drug resistant strain. There's a lot of factors and I'm glad so many people are willing to reduce the stigma, but it is serious, it is life altering, and it's something definitely worth considering, at least until we have more information on how to CURE it as opposed to just reduce the viral load.
You never know, never say "never"......I get it. It's a general idea that applies, but not to every area of life for everyone. Love does not conquer all.
Of course love doesn't conquer all. But no one is perfect and no partner is ever going to be without flaws. Love for someone else is what allows us to overlook a person's less than desirable qualities and focus on the good things. My point is just that if I really loved someone and thought you were compatible for the long haul, then I don't think an STD would be a deal breaker for me. For some I'm sure it would and there's nothing wrong with that either.
Yes, only if he is my husband.
A love more than life.
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