Fear of rejection.. (woman, personal, relations, people)
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1) Go out.
2) Hit on girls.
3) Get rejected by some.
4) Don't get rejected by one.
5) Happy times.
If you try to avoid rejection, you are SERIOUSLY limiting yourself. Rejection will happen. But it's not a big deal. As long as you don't let it affect you, you WILL get a girl. I promise.
It is a common fear of being rejected. I myself have been rejected a few times. Yes, it stings. At the same time, I remind myself that it could be worse. I'd rather be rejected right off the bat than "led on." Plus, I'd rather the person reject me and wait for the person most compatible to her instead of saying yes only to have me for her "fix up project."
Fear of rejection is like fear of being hit by the ball when you play baseball.
If you let the fear keep you from being in the game you miss out on a ton of fun
EVERYONE gets rejected at some time or another in life, male AND female.
When I was coming up, it was strange for me. In a physical sense, I had no fear at all. I would walk alone, at any time, in the worst neighborhoods. I would stick up for old people or weaker people who were being bullied. I had no fear whatsoever of physical pain.
But I was scared to talk to women. And during the few occasions when I reached out and tried to get involved in the game, I was rejected - sometimes cruelly. And that hurt more than getting punched or kicked.
Sure, everyone gets rejected. But nobody likes getting rejected all the time.
I'd still rather experience physical pain than emotional pain.
The worst is when you've put in some work, go in for that first kiss and get the pull back!! AHHHH!!!!
That has rarely happened to me but the one time it had was quite memorable . I have done the pull away with drunk women in bars before, and rightfully so!
I'm so sick of seeing people whine about the whole "guys ask/pay/whatever and girls get pick & choose" stuff. It is 2012. Women ask men out. Women pay. If you're a guy and all you date are women who expect you to do the pursuing/asking/paying, ask yourself why YOU surround yourself with women like this. Maybe the problem is YOU, not the women.
Yes, I put my money where my mouth is. I have asked guys out (and subsequently, properly paid). I will continue to do so.
As for rejection, it sucks regardless of who you are -- male, female, gay, straight, whatever.
Still, your experiences are different than others' experiences. You ask guys out - that's great. But some guys ask women out and get no takers, and never get asked out.
It generally does for me and I can even recall the last time it happened.
Was buying from a girl in retail I find/found very attractive. Her whole body language was lets get this over with, untalk-ative, didn't look me in the eye. Yes, poor customer service.....but it heightened my interest in her.
Really? I would have never even gone near her again, much less wanted to get to know her or even interact with her.
A couple times I even complained to management because service from women such as those you described was so hostile.
because at its core, a person is telling you that your personality, feelings, etc is not good enough. Most of us like to believe that we are decent human beings, so when somebody tells you aren't good enough for them, it can hurt your self esteem.
I don't know if you mean that you just think that or if you actually say it, but whatever the case, it sounds bitter. Who wants to date that kind of person?
Nah I wouldn't say that to someone. I would respect their decision and bow out gracefully, but I happen to like myself and I would definitely think that they are missing out by not giving me a chance to show them who I am.
SO what's the big deal about getting rejected anyway?
And why is it always the women/girls who do the rejecting?..
It is a fear. You can overcome it. Some people have fear or flying or driving.
Women get asked out so they do the rejecting.
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. I have done the pull away with drunk women in bars before, and rightfully so!
