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You were the cute 20 something that turned every guy down because you thought you were so cute. You slept around and got drunk every weekend. You were one of the "cool girls" in high school and college. You never gave the "nerdy guy" a chance.
WAIT A MINUTE.............FAST FOWARD
Nerdy guy is now 37 and he's no longer nedy looking, he's transformed his body to a lean muscle machine and he's spent the last 15 years working on his career and building his business. He now earns a high 6 figure income and is well traveled.
Oh, wait a minute............NOW YOU WANT HIM.
Yes, the above story is real and it happens.
I say, to heck with her. She's no longer the cute 20 something girl, she's now 35 and used up and has had a series a bad relationships and a divorce.
Yup, this happens to guys all of the time.
Okay. So hang on. The logic (Or lack thereof) is just breathtaking.
The priorities of a 20-something are far different than the priorities of a 35-year-old. Seriously? Are you honest-to-God the same person you are today than you were fifteen years ago? Obviously not, since the person you describe were a pencil-necked geek.
Are you saying that 15 years ago the only thing you looked at in a woman was her inner beauty? Obviously this isn't true either because you found her attractive despite her manifest shallowness. So aren't you just as guilty of being shallow then as she was? And if you're this bitter now, you were likely not that much fun to hang out with in your early 20s, either.
Seriously, man. Get some therapy. Learn to let go. All that bitterness and resentment is going to burn you up inside.
You were the cute 20 something that turned every guy down because you thought you were so cute. You slept around and got drunk every weekend. You were one of the "cool girls" in high school and college. You never gave the "nerdy guy" a chance.
WAIT A MINUTE.............FAST FOWARD
Nerdy guy is now 37 and he's no longer nedy looking, he's transformed his body to a lean muscle machine and he's spent the last 15 years working on his career and building his business. He now earns a high 6 figure income and is well traveled.
Oh, wait a minute............NOW YOU WANT HIM.
Yes, the above story is real and it happens.
I say, to heck with her. She's no longer the cute 20 something girl, she's now 35 and used up and has had a series a bad relationships and a divorce.
Yup, this happens to guys all of the time.
Dear nerdy guys,
Please stop going after the drunk chicks who sleep around. I know they are "cool" and "so cute," but it seems to bring you nothing but pain and remorse.
I don't disagree with you.
No one should complain about anything.
But that's all we hear from many males on this site.
On this site, i agree that probably more men than women complain, although i have seen PLENTY of female posts regarding men's superficiality.
In real life, how often do you hear overweight or obese women complain that men are too picky about weight? All the time, i bet. Yet the overweight and obese women are rejecting the men who are expressing interest in them, because they find the men too clingy or otherwise unacceptable. So in reality they are picky as well. It's hypocritical.
On this site, i agree that probably more men than women complain, although i have seen PLENTY of female posts regarding men's superficiality.
In real life, how often do you hear overweight or obese women complain that men are too picky about weight? All the time, i bet. Yet the overweight and obese women are rejecting the men who are expressing interest in them, because they find the men too clingy or otherwise unacceptable. So in reality they are picky as well. It's hypocritical.
Wrong.
I can't remember the last time an overweight woman complained that men were too superficial and expressed bitterness about how lame it is they won't go for someone overweight.
Why? BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT ALREADY. They don't have to verbalize it. They are often ashamed of their weight and don't expect romantic attention...interestingly, I do know several overweight women who have verrry active dating lives.
What I hear women complain about the most in real life is that their men/husbands act like children more often than not. Don't help with household chores, don't take initiate in day-to-day running of life, etc.
I have never in my memory heard a woman complain that men SHOULD like her even though she's fat. Not once.
On this site, i agree that probably more men than women complain, although i have seen PLENTY of female posts regarding men's superficiality.
In real life, how often do you hear overweight or obese women complain that men are too picky about weight? All the time, i bet. Yet the overweight and obese women are rejecting the men who are expressing interest in them, because they find the men too clingy or otherwise unacceptable. So in reality they are picky as well. It's hypocritical.
My god man, if I were a girl I would never want to date you, even if I was 400 pounds. You have been posting the same thing over and over on this thread, to the point where it just leaves an annoying vibe, despite the advice of other posters. Are you really so hung over weight that you are overlooking the fact that maybe its your personality that both men and women find unattractive?
It's hard to help someone so filled with unnecessary bitterness. Chill, meditate, do something to purge these negative thoughts that are doing nothing but holding you back. The fact that you are "fit" yet are going for "overweight" women, without regards to their personality or compatibility, just reflects your lack of standards for yourself and those you wish to be with.
Wrong.
I can't remember the last time an overweight woman complained that men were too superficial and expressed bitterness about how lame it is they won't go for someone overweight.
Why? BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT ALREADY. They don't have to verbalize it. They are often ashamed of their weight and don't expect romantic attention...interestingly, I do know several overweight women who have verrry active dating lives.
What I hear women complain about the most in real life is that their men/husbands act like children more often than not. Don't help with household chores, don't take initiate in day-to-day running of life, etc.
I have never in my memory heard a woman complain that men SHOULD like her even though she's fat. Not once.
I hear it all the time, that men should go for overweight and obese women. I've been hearing it my whole life. Men are supposedly superficial and horrible because they care about weight too much. I'm sure i could find you plenty posts right here on CD that imply as much.
On another note, i think that men SHOULD frankly be more helpful with household chores.
On this site, i agree that probably more men than women complain, although i have seen PLENTY of female posts regarding men's superficiality.
In real life, how often do you hear overweight or obese women complain that men are too picky about weight? All the time, i bet. Yet the overweight and obese women are rejecting the men who are expressing interest in them, because they find the men too clingy or otherwise unacceptable. So in reality they are picky as well. It's hypocritical.
I only know one obese woman off line. She's a best friend so we speak often. Never in the 20+ years that I've known her has she ever uttered those words.
I hear it all the time, that men should go for overweight and obese women. I've been hearing it my whole life. Men are supposedly superficial and horrible because they care about weight too much. I'm sure i could find you plenty posts right here on CD that imply as much.
On another note, i think that men SHOULD frankly be more helpful with household chores.
Seems more like you find posts that imply as much as often times you project onto others threads/posts claiming that's what the underlying assumption is.
Such as when a guy posted perhaps when guys say 'there aren't any available gals' they really mean 'there aren't any available gals I want' and you project the underlying assumption is guys are much more shallow/superficial/picky than gals.
Wrong.
I can't remember the last time an overweight woman complained that men were too superficial and expressed bitterness about how lame it is they won't go for someone overweight.
Why? BECAUSE THEY KNOW THAT ALREADY. They don't have to verbalize it. They are often ashamed of their weight and don't expect romantic attention...interestingly, I do know several overweight women who have verrry active dating lives.
What I hear women complain about the most in real life is that their men/husbands act like children more often than not. Don't help with household chores, don't take initiate in day-to-day running of life, etc.
I have never in my memory heard a woman complain that men SHOULD like her even though she's fat. Not once.
That's exactly what I heard from my obese friend actually. Her husband was in construction and would get laid off often. Instead of finding another job he would be content to accept peanuts for unemployment for as long as he could rather than find a better paying job.
There are many overweight women who complain constantly about how they are not ignored because of their weight. They use the terms "real women" and "women with curves" frequently. I actually find it insulting as a thin woman, because the insinuation that they are "real" and somehow thin women are not is absurd. And these type of women often complain that the media never shows "real women with curves". Well, there is a good reason for that. The fashion and beauty media is selling a fantasy. While, there has been a growth of plus size models the fact remains, beauty in the media is defined by thinness whether one likes it or not and many people are turned off by images of bigger women. I have met women like this all over the Internet and IRL I have worked with countless overweight women who make these statements, while eating a salad at lunch, but snacking on donuts and candy bars all day. It is a reality that there are women like this. But, there are also overweight women who receive unconditional love, because they are self-confident or their man likes them that way.
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