When should a guy start giving his girlfriend money? (therapy, husband, children)
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I'm an RN and there are very few of my co-workers who had a baby and never came back to work again. A two income family is the norm now. Few men can afford the luxury of a SAHM for any great length of time. That's just the reality of life in this day and age. But that is now what the OP is talking about. He's asking about a girlfriend of 2 months. It's an entirely different topic.
Basically women can't win with you. If they decide they want to be sahms they can't win, but when they aren't sahms they are responsible for all of society's problems.
Guess what...having a child is HUGE deal, and some families(not just women) change their mind once the baby comes and they start seeing how the baby will change your life. Are you party to the private conversations these couples have? I never saw being a sahm as something that was possible for me, but I certainly see how some families change their mind in these situations.
As for your comment about the American family being broken, where do men fit in that equation? Do you honestly believe that in the traditional family model of old there was no dysfunction?
Part of the problem on this forum is that we have a number of guys who are college students (or recent grads) posting against women with quite a bit of real life experience. It's like trying to mix oil and water.
Basically I will agree with the rest. It is never okay.
If I was in dire straits I would ask my family for money before I would ever ask my BF or hint about it. While I know my BF would help me if push came to shove, I would never accept any money from him.
Hinting her bills are due is just one way of her saying she expects you to take care of her financially. Since this is only months into the relationship, that screams gold digger.
When you first start dating I think it's horrible idea to give woman money to pay their bills or for beauty reasons. She technically hasn't "earned" it and she knows it. So she won't generally appreciate the gesture. That is just my opinion. But let's say you have been dating her for a couple of months and she starts dropping hints of bills being due.
What's the general rule of thumb for giving your girlfriend money?
When you first start dating I think it's horrible idea to give woman money to pay their bills or for beauty reasons. She technically hasn't "earned" it and she knows it. So she won't generally appreciate the gesture. That is just my opinion. But let's say you have been dating her for a couple of months and she starts dropping hints of bills being due.
What's the general rule of thumb for giving your girlfriend money?
Is this actually a thing? Here I am, going to work and paying my own bills like a chump.
Edit: In all seriousness, I can't imagine asking a boyfriend to lend me money unless there was some sort of dire emergency and without the intention of paying him back as soon as possible. I certainly wouldn't be asking him to pay for my hair and nails or my cell phone bill. I don't need or want a sugar daddy.
I totally agree. I have been dating my guy since I was 15, which is now several years. Since going off to separate colleges it has turned into a long distance relationshing. Long story short, he offers to pay for my gas or hotel room when I go visit him. My answer is NO. This is why I work, to pay my own way. I think that it's disrespectful to you and herself to think that someone else needs to pay her bills. Maybe I am just an odd woman, but I like independent and self-sufficient.
ps-long term relationships (and marriage) are about sharing responsibilities, not one person mooching off the other.
When you first start dating I think it's horrible idea to give woman money to pay their bills or for beauty reasons. She technically hasn't "earned" it and she knows it. So she won't generally appreciate the gesture. That is just my opinion. But let's say you have been dating her for a couple of months and she starts dropping hints of bills being due.
What's the general rule of thumb for giving your girlfriend money?
There IS no "general rule of thumb" joeclyde. I've never heard of anything like that, maybe it depends on the relationship, and whether you feel the type of woman you want can be bought and paid for.
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